okay, so there's a question that's been stirring in my mind...i'm a black woman, proud of it, sport a nappy/natural head of hair, i love my dark skin/brown eyes...and all that...but, the artist Common featuring Mos Def asked this question on his 'like water for chocolcate' cd:
'why you gotta act like a nigga all the time?
is a nigga yo' complexion, or is it all in ya' mind?'
why are there some of 'us' who think it's cute or an 'okay' part of our culture to be loud for NO REASON, mean for NO REASON, 'in yo' face and i dare to even blink' making those around them uncomfortable for, YEP, YOU GUESSED IT...NO FRIGGIN' REASON?
okay, i get the whole racial/being held back/oppression thing....really, i do! i dig Angela Davis/Marcus Garvey/Malcolm 'El Hajj Malik El-Shabazz' X/Nikki Giovanni and all them, but REALLY...some black folks get so testy when they see a 'mixed' couple...WHY? some black people get soooo very testy when people of other ethnicities DON'T want them 'around' because for some strange reason, we seem to think that we can make life miserable for others (i guess) because we ourselves are miserable...but when will it end? don't you (for those who are going to get an attitude because i just may be talking about them, sorry...i mean no disrespect, i really am curious about this) think you're going to get tired of always fighting and NOT getting along with your/our fellow brother and sister of the human race?
i feel the pain of stares and comments when people see me and my 3 kids...they assume i'm a child myself (i'm 31) because God has blessed me with a youthful look. people see 2 of my 3 kids and assume that i'm not the birth mom, not thinking that maybe their father is of another race (which by the by, HE IS...HE'S MEXICAN)...so, just curious...if someone can clarify why some of us 'black folk' act like niggas but then get mad when people don't want us around, i would trully appreciate it!
You make a great observation that I'm sure many people would like the answer to. I'm white, so I cant speak from your perspective as a woman of color. But I can speak to you as a woman who has been thru some similar situations. I too have been blessed w/ youthful genes, & had the stares of judging strangers when my boys were little. But I learned to hold my head high & not care what others thought of me. They dont know me. We may never understand why some people are ok w/ certain unacceptable social behaviors, or why they object to inter racial couples. Sometimes it's just downright ignorance. Which brings me to my last point. The use of the N word. I hate it, It's an ugly word & wish EVERYONE would lay it to rest like they ceremoniously did in Detroit a few years ago. I hope you find the ans. you are looking for. Or at least the strength to move past the negativity.
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