A friend and I got together yesterday because we haven't seen one another for a while we haven't really been speaking to one another. My friend has been frustrated with me because for the past year since my child was born , she says.. I never keep plans or dates,which I have apologized for. But I feel like she does not understand at all what it is like to have a child. Well simply because she doesn't have a child so she doesn't know. I just feel like she is not understanding at all.
A few months back we made plans to get together for a walk I was going to bring my daughter who was 8 months at the time.( She is now a year old. ) I was on my way to her house.. Got the baby ready, got myself ready and was excited to see my friend as well as have a good visit. I stopped at the bank first went to make my baby a bottle cause she was crying I picked her up out of her car seat and she had pooped and got it ALL The way UP her back!! I didn't have a new change of clothes.. I had to turn the car around and go home I canceled the day and went home. I was going through an emotional day because it had taken us all morning to get out of the house it was just one of those days and I just cried the whole way home and took care of the baby when we got home .
My friend later called and said how mad she was that I had canceled and that she had been fed up with me not keeping plans. The truth is she doesn't understand that After having my baby I had some post postpartum depression and all I needed was someone to understand not get angry with me..
So getting together yesterday she said made some comments that bothered me which I should have spoken up at the moment and just told her how I felt but instead now its a day later and I am thinking on it all and I am now on here sharing it because I need feed back or for someone to say they have been through this or something...
One thing that bothered me was she said to me " well you how are you going to have a 2nd child if you had that much of an emotional time with your first!?"
I was shocked she asked me that and maybe its a sensitive topic because I did have a tough time with my first but I will be damned if I am labeled " Unable to enjoy, or have more children because of my difficulty"
It has to be said I had a baby that was born in the winter months had ONE car to get around and my husband had it for work. We live in a one bedroom loft.. try being secluded in your house every day maybe getting out once a week with the baby. I had a hard time.
I don't know if I should make plans to get together again to tell her that her comment bothered me or to just let it go and forget about her friendship all together?? Your Thoughts.
Asked by Anonymous at 7:44 AM on Jul. 2, 2011 in Relationships
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