Here's my dilemma. My SO use to frequent strip clubs when he was single. I don't have a huge issue with this and would not be all that upset if he went on occasion (we have gone together as well), my thing with him was that I told him I didn't feel it was necessary to go more than once in a great while. So far this has not been too much of an issue. I will say I know of one time he did go, that he did not tell me about. I tried dropping hints to get him to admit it, but he did not.
Now his work schedule changed and there will be opportunity for him to go out with his friend every other week. Mind you I work relatively later hours, and he has days off to where going out the night before can happen. I know this is going to come up in the next week here. So being that I am sort of a deviant woman and also can get information because I am smart and resourceful, I also know which club he was a regular at before ( this is the one he went to the one night and didnt tell me).....well this club just happens to be pretty close to my work on my way home. So now my plan is, that I know he will ask to go out with this friend of his. I am also guessing he might omit that he's stopping at this club that night and just say they are going to this local bar here for drinks. I am planning on stopping at that club to see if his truck is there that night. I am still deciding if I plan on going in or not, which I probably will just to see the look on his face. I do realize this is going to open a can of worms but I also do not want him thinking he has to lie to me about going there to avoid me getting upset. I would rather know the truth than for him to sneak there.
So comments.....good idea?? Bad Idea?? Would you do this? Would you go in?
(my reasoning for going in is, he claims hes not the "sit at the stage side" man and that he sits at the bar, has a few and leaves, oh and also that he does not spend the money on lap dances, which I have told him I don't want him doing anyways?)
Need to hear some input on what you would do in this situation!
Asked by Anonymous at 10:35 AM on Jul. 2, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by sugaree at 10:44 AM on Jul. 2, 2011
Answer by Fistandantalus at 10:55 AM on Jul. 2, 2011
I would just confront him before you think he will do it. About being honest in a relationship. Don't lie and hide things. Then if you know he is not home that night you are talking about go see if he is out with the guys.
If he is hiding & lieing about this, what else is he hiding & lieing about
Answer by louise2 at 11:06 AM on Jul. 2, 2011
Answer by cara124 at 11:18 AM on Jul. 2, 2011
Answer by NaiveDream at 1:56 PM on Jul. 2, 2011
Answer by BrendaW. at 9:12 PM on Jul. 2, 2011
Answer by PANZONSMOM at 10:44 PM on Jul. 2, 2011
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