For those of you who didn't read my last question, dh's mother is staying an hour and a half away for the weekend at bil's house b/c she's recuperating from foot surgery. The original plan was she'd have surgery and then stay at her sister's house, as she's a nurse and lives in the same town that she had surgery in until she was recovered enough to go home. As far as I can tell (b/c otherwise dh would have set me straight with a smartass comment of SEE? She DID have a good reason for leaving DIDN'T SHE?) there was zero reason she couldn't have stayed at her sister's house until she was done recuperating. So now, dh has to travel an hour and a half to take care of her for a couple days while bil goes and gallavants and has fun. Dh has also said he isn't coming home until the DAY OF the 4th-so basically all we're gonna have time to do by the time he gets home is throw a bunch of stuff in the car and go watch fireworks, and bil gets a whole weekend to goof off.
I feel that she should have A) stayed at her sister's house until she was done recuperating like the original plan was B)bil could have waited to go out of town and taken care of her since he lives in the same town and EVERY OTHER TIME it's dh who gets called on to help her C)she could have scheduled the surgery during a time she wouldn't be recuperating over the 4th of July weekend.
This is the same mother who had dh take care of her a couple months ago from some other surgery she had, another time had him drive over 3 hours out of his way b/c she wanted to go somewhere and the truck she bought didn't get good enough gas mileage for her. (she wasn't thinking practically and whether she'd actually be able to drive the thing, she just thought about what she WANTED).
I think it's wonderful that dh wants to help her out and take care of her, but it seems like it's just HIM that's getting all the brunt of all the work and I think bil should do his share too. I'm also irritated because I think his mom was being selfish by not staying with her sister until she was fully recuperated. I also feel, especially since bil lives in the same town as her, that she should call HIM for help once in awhile. My dh isn't her only kid. Helping mom out is a wonderful thing, but it shouldn't just fall to one kid. Thoughts?
Answer by kidnappedbylove at 6:42 PM on Jul. 2, 2011
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