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How do i deal as a wife

Well my husband n i are n counceling. i found some notes that he had written dowN : " i tell her that im just too tired n had a rly long day at work, when i rly didnt..i just dont wanna clean." " i have always thought the house work was a womans job and her to work" " when ever i know i did wrong i make her feel bad so she ends up feeling like the bully" :::: i do work 40-50 hrs a week n we have 3 boys n i do all the house work. but what do i do bout what he said

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Asked by momma2.3boys at 12:57 AM on Jul. 3, 2011 in Relationships

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  • What a jack ass! Bring those notes to counselling.... he needs to step up and be a man... he lives in the house... then 50% of the work is his!! He is the father of 3 kids... 50% of the parenting is his to do!! What an ass!!


    Answer by Crafty26 at 1:01 AM on Jul. 3, 2011

  • My DH is the same way. When you find out how to control it, let me know.

    My iron frying pan kinda looks like it may get the trick done hehehe

    Answer by Chloesmom1126 at 1:28 AM on Jul. 3, 2011


    Answer by lucinacruz at 4:37 AM on Jul. 3, 2011

  • Just continue counseling and call him out if he continues to manupilate you in this way. He wrote those things down because he knows they are wrong so hopefully counseling can help him take the next step and start showing you more respect.

    Answer by Ashes0813 at 5:27 AM on Jul. 3, 2011

  • Confront him with it honestly and openly. Acknowledge that you realize maybe you shouldn't have read the notes; however, tell him that he should have shared his feelings with you instead of lying about them to manipulate him. Ask him to please bring the notes with him when you go for counseling again so your counselor can give you an unbiased opinion of the situation and a different perspective from both sides. Since you're in counseling, I'm assuming you want to either save or improve your marriage so good communication is especially important.

    Answer by rosiemendo at 11:53 AM on Jul. 3, 2011

  • Um, you said they were notes he had written for HIM to bring to counseling? Well, if that is the case, DO NOTHING because it seems he realizes his issues and is making the effort to talk about it in counseling. Be greatful he admits to his controlling ways and is looking to fix it.

    Answer by Auntiemom410 at 12:00 PM on Jul. 3, 2011

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