My husband and I have been doing a lot of talking about our dysfuctional sex life lately. I said I needed him to initiate sex more often, and he is. He said he needed more quickies. Hell, I'm game, I want to make him happy.
Since that talk we have had sex 6 times. 3 quickies, during and after which he had zero concern for my satisfaction. 1 BJ, which I owed him from a bet lol. I ended up hurting his feelings last night because we had sex and then he was done... again. Rolled over and showed absolutely NO interest in making sure I was satisfied. It was his birthday and he just wanted a quickie, fine, but seriously? And when I brought it up he threw in my face that the time before HE didn't get to climax. He got hurt when I said "Well, but the difference is that I still cared about you getting off yesterday." Because I really did try, he just had some pain and got distracted and didn't want to finish.
I don't know what I need to do here... but having bad sex is no fun, and it REALLY pisses me off that pleasing him means going without myself and he's totally okay with that.
How do I bring it up? What do I say? I don't want to start a fight, I just want this to STOP.
Asked by Anonymous at 10:10 AM on Jul. 3, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by AF4life at 10:16 AM on Jul. 3, 2011
Answer by amandajoy21 at 10:16 AM on Jul. 3, 2011
Quickie = male satisfaction, you did not know that I guess? That's why my DH does not get many.
Most men are only worried about their own sexual satisfaction, not yours. Start learning how to self satisfy. It will make your life easier.
Answer by louise2 at 10:18 AM on Jul. 3, 2011
Answer by Fistandantalus at 10:40 AM on Jul. 3, 2011
Answer by momofkids at 10:51 AM on Jul. 3, 2011
Answer by wife_mother1790 at 11:06 AM on Jul. 3, 2011
Answer by momofkids at 11:06 AM on Jul. 3, 2011