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How to get my 6y/o to sleep in her room?

our daughter always sleeps with us. Our mistake by putting her in the bed with us when she was little. We recently moved into our own place and she has her own room. She refuses to spend time in there for any reason. She has her own cable box and TV.. she has everything. I knew she wouldn't sleep in there at first but we've been here for 5 months already and she still refuses to go in there. While she was in FL with my parents we painted it purple for her(its the color she wanted) and hoped that worked. Oops we were wrong. Well the last week we tried something different and let her sleep in our sons room with them. The boys(one 3 and the other 1) both having blue race car beds. She falls asleep watching TV in there and stays in there all night. Now since she has been doing it for a week or so we told her tonight she goes in her room. She is freaking out and does not want to do it. What should I do?

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Asked by HappyMomma2832 at 12:44 PM on Jul. 3, 2011 in General Parenting

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  • My son is the same way, he just hates being alone. At anytime of the day.

    Answer by SassySue123 at 12:57 PM on Jul. 3, 2011

  • My boys always sleep in their beds but my daughter... its like forget. She doesn't even like going in her room. I don't get it. When she has friends over she'll play in there but not when it's just the fam at home.

    Comment by HappyMomma2832 (original poster) at 1:01 PM on Jul. 3, 2011

  • What if you laid in there with her until she fell asleep? Don't tell her you're leaving but get up after she's asleep.

    Answer by kit_manson at 3:44 PM on Jul. 3, 2011

  • Its like she has some kind of radar and wakes up the second you walk out of the room.

    Comment by HappyMomma2832 (original poster) at 4:00 PM on Jul. 3, 2011

  • This has gone on an awfully long time. Unfortunately, the longer you put this off, the longer it takes to fix. First off, you should get the TV and cable box OUT of the bedroom. Studies have shown that tvs in bedrooms reduce the quality of sleep your child receives, which can make her crankier and more hyperactive during the day.

    2) can you get her a pet to share her bedroom? A puppy or cat is nice, but even a goldfish helps sometime. The fishtank with its soft bubbling water sound can be very soothing. This step isn't necessary, but it can help.
    3) Make sure she's good and tired. Don't let her stay up later, as being over tired can make it harder to sleep. But make sure she ha splenty of outdoor playtime, not watching TV for an hour before bed.
    4) have a regular bedtime routine.
    5) take her to bed. Lay her down, cover her up, read to her, say prayers, whatever works in your family. Then leave.n ( CONT)

    Answer by LoreleiSieja at 5:35 PM on Jul. 3, 2011

  • If she fusses, let her. She's old enough to sleep alone. If she gets up, you can shut her door, or put a latch on it on the outside to keep her in (not safe) or a baby thingy over the doorknob on the inside so she can't open the door. No more getting drinks of water, no more crawling into mom's bed. She's a big girl now.
    6) if you hate the Cry it Out method, your only other choice is to sit by her bed until she falls asleep at night, every night. The first night it may take her an hour to fall asleep. You sit right by her bed and rub her back, etc. You touch her. After a week, you sit by her, but don't touch her. After several weeks you move your chair farther away from her bed, but still in her room. Eventually, every week you move your chair farther away away until you are sitting in the hallway. A couple of long months for you, and she's cured.

    Answer by LoreleiSieja at 5:41 PM on Jul. 3, 2011

  • OKay so good news. She fell asleep in there about 20 minutes ago. No fight... she was all by herself watching TV. She is out like a light. In the morning ill let oyu know what happened! Im so excited!

    Comment by HappyMomma2832 (original poster) at 10:56 PM on Jul. 3, 2011

  • Take naps in there with her and make her room a nice getaway for you and her. Then award her for sleeping in there by herself and allow her to go to the store and pick out a sleeping buddy (a bear or doll). have her read to the bear/doll everynight and tuck it in! Good luck she's a big girl now!

    Answer by frstldyhmsch at 12:56 AM on Jul. 4, 2011

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