Yesterday I had a miscarriage. I started running a fever Friday night, thought nothing of it because a bad cold is going around. Got up about 5 am to pee, on the way to the bathroom, my water broke, by the time I got to the bathroom and sat down, I delivered the baby. Everything happened so fast. Apparently he passed sometime that week, fever was due to an infection from his passing. I'm home now, but still feeling really sick. Worst off, every time I close my eyes, I see him, we warped him and the placenta up in a blanket and took him to the hospital. I don't know how to deal with this. I don't know what they did with his body. I know that the drastic changes in hormones can mess with me, so I hope that as my body levels out, that I will do better. But i cant get that image out of my mind. I have done really well keeping things together today so far, but I feel like I just need to break down and cry. I just can't do that in front of my other kids, they didn't know we were pregnant, we were waiting to surprise them at the ultrasound. So I don't want them to see me break down.
What do I do, how will I ever get that image from my head?
Asked by Anonymous at 1:59 PM on Jul. 3, 2011 in General Parenting
Answer by Amanda11810 at 2:05 PM on Jul. 3, 2011
Answer by Whitea907 at 2:09 PM on Jul. 3, 2011
Answer by TARARENEE at 2:11 PM on Jul. 3, 2011
I think that it is okay to grieve in front of your children. You can cry in front of them, if they ask what is wrong you can just tell them you are sad. My dad died 12 days ago and I have been crying off and on for months. It is healthy for you kids to see you sad and upset sometimes, then when they grow up they will know it is okay to be sad sometimes too.
Big hugs Momma! I am so sorry you are going through this.
Answer by SleepingBeautee at 2:27 PM on Jul. 3, 2011
Answer by evelynwest at 2:57 PM on Jul. 3, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 5:24 PM on Jul. 3, 2011
Answer by starlia34 at 8:06 PM on Jul. 3, 2011
Answer by kmqw229 at 12:08 AM on Jul. 4, 2011
I'm so very very sorry. Miscarriages leave such a deep scar. I think maybe a memorial may help a little. It takes time. You DO need to grieve. Please don't suppress that for anyone elses benefit. I tell my son I don't feel good when he sees me cry.
Answer by ThatBoysMom at 12:46 AM on Jul. 4, 2011