I met a guy online who seems sweet and is really attractive and we exchanged emails then moved to texting.. We texted for quite awhile last night and in that time he had asked me about my job as a personal assistant and I said "Oh I'm just a glorified errand runner, I do this guys grocery shopping, clean his house and whatever else is needed" I wasn't really thinking about how I put it because my job bores me and I wanted to move onto more interesting subjects. And he responded with.. "whatever else is needed?" you're leaving that window wide open .. ! Or something to that effect, I can't remember how he put it but the implication was clear. He was questioning my integrity. Heres the thing.. My last boyfriend was really jealous and said offensive things when he was mad like "you're sucking fat boy dick to pay your rent" (boss is fat) .. so here I am the first time out texting this new guy and he implies something nasty like that?? Im thinking it's a red flag and I don't wanna txt him anymore or meet him. Am I overreacting?
Asked by Anonymous at 12:04 PM on Jul. 4, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by bcauseimthemom at 1:14 PM on Jul. 4, 2011
Answer by BabyBugsmama at 12:06 PM on Jul. 4, 2011
Answer by mlmkjw at 12:07 PM on Jul. 4, 2011
I think you are. With texting (or writing anything on the internet), there is a lack of tone and sometimes, something that is meant to be joking can look like something else.
Answer by JeremysMom at 12:07 PM on Jul. 4, 2011
Answer by BOOKER123ABC at 12:19 PM on Jul. 4, 2011
Answer by emmyandlisa at 12:07 PM on Jul. 4, 2011
I would take it as a Red Flag- but, give him the benefit of the doubt for now; if he says anything like your ex-boyfriend did- then i would be DONE.. lots of luck:)
Answer by daisyb at 12:08 PM on Jul. 4, 2011
Answer by LittleBirdFly at 12:09 PM on Jul. 4, 2011
I have to agree with JeremysMom. You can't always tell in text the "tone" someone is using. However, you should let him know you don't appreciate those types of jokes. He can't read your mind either.
Answer by sipn_mom at 12:13 PM on Jul. 4, 2011