My ex was controlling, manipulative, compulsive liar and cheated on me. I was with him for 4 years and had one child with him and it took me forever to get up the nerve to leave but I did and it's been nearly 2 years.
I've had nothing but bad luck with men since. I tried dating but my trust issues always make me look loopy. So, I took a break for almost a year and now I've been talking to this guy I went to high school with.
He and I had some classes together Junior and Senior year of high school and now 2-3 years later I've started to get to know him and we've been going out and doing things often. We spent 4 days in a row doing stuff together (not constantly but we would spend a few hours together each day) and I felt like we hit it off really well. Well it's been a month of doing this and the 4th consecutive day hanging out, we ended up messing around a little...very little. I mean like, making out and just a little touching however the next morning he did not text me and I found myself wondering why and I then texted him just to wait 6 hours to get a reply and it was short. He told me he's with his friends that live about 2 hours away and I know this is true...the guy is his best friend and they were supposed to get together for the anniversary of the death of two friends they lost and go to their grave site but I couldn't help but wonder why he couldn't take a few minutes to reply every so often and then today a second day of not much conversation and with us having just hit a new stage of our relationship I ended up feeling so insecure that I flat out asked him if he was not wanting to talk anymore and he felt like I was freaking out and I feel awful now. He still talked to me but and I said "I'm sorry, I know I'm overthinking things and being a little sensitive can you forgive me?" and he said "Maybe" and we haven't talked in hours now.
What can I do to make this right? I don't want him thinking I'm nuts...I mean, sure I've got some issues...but I'm getting better and I really want to make this work and I'm learning to control this stuff I just really hope it's not too late.
Can you help me out? What can I say to make things better? If you think it's too late, could you help me figure out how not to let these trust issues get the best of me next time? I really need to get over this!
Asked by Anonymous at 7:54 PM on Jul. 4, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by TARARENEE at 7:57 PM on Jul. 4, 2011
Answer by pinkdragon36 at 7:59 PM on Jul. 4, 2011
Well, for now, I would probably send him one more text and tell him," you hope you didn't scare him off, your just a little insecure and to get ahold of you when he's got time" and leave it at that! That way" the ball is in his court" I wouldn't call or text him after that or your going to look desperate! I know it's hard but don't cave! Meanwhile try to get on with your everyday routine. It takes a while to get past all the hurt and insecurities and it may take counseling. I hope it all works out for you!
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