My daughter is 15, soon to be sophomore, just got her temps, and has been a generally good kid. She broke up with her boyfriend of 10 months in May, and started seeing a new guy. I liked him at first, he seemed very respectful, charming, etc. But then I found out that he was turning 18, will be a senior, and they had (after less than 2 months of dating) mutually decided to become sexually active.
She is on reliable BC (for ovarian cysts) but I am so worried for her heart. We have also taught her that sex is for loving, honest, adult relationships and is unwise at her age, monitored their contact, etc. While at his house, his folks caught them in a compromising position, but didn't contact me about it until after he turned 18, and NOW they're worried about "bad" things happening (i.e. me reporting him as an adult).
My daughter and I have always been close and can talk about anything, but I just don't know how to handle this. She said they decided not to have sex anymore, and expects me to let them continue seeing each other so they can "make their own mistakes" and "see their relationship through". His folks won't let them be at their house and I'll be danged if he sets foot in my house, and he and his folks are in the midst of all kinds of crazy drama (father/son fistfights, screaming matches, and the boy moved out so he can continue seeing my daughter).
I forbade contact for a while until we get things settled and my daughter went to spend some time with her dad an hour away, but she'll be coming home soon. If you've been in this kind of situation, what did you do and how did it work out for you?
So she's now 15 and he is 18? She's a minor and he is an adult! If you wanted to do something to really prevent them from seeing one another, you could legally! That's the rout I would take if I wanted to keep them away from one another! As far as her saying the 2 of them will no longer be having sex... there's no way I'd believe that, that statement was for your benefit! I have a 16 yr. old daughter and all I can think is if she were in this situation, it would come to an end really quick! My daughter did start seeing some low life jerk last year and of course we were only hearing the good things about him. Later we found out he dropped out of school and had another girl pregnant! Well, lets just say, my husband put "The Fear of God" in him and he went away on his own! She was heartbroke at the time but now realizes we did her a huge favor! Gotta do the tough love mom, good luck!
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Answer by twinsplus2more at 7:34 AM on Jul. 5, 2011
omg what a situation you have on your hands, my daughter is only 6 so its not something I have to worry about for a good many years. All I can say is that I personally would not let my sexually active child date an adult, and I probably would report the boy for stachatory rape. But thats just me. Anyways I'll give you a bump and hopefully someone whos been there can give you some advice
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