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How do you handle an adult child (23 y/o) who has a full time job and lives at home and doesn't want to contribute anything?

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fitness10

Asked by fitness10 at 11:35 AM on Jul. 5, 2011 in Adult Children (18+)

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  • Kick him out?
    pookiekins34

    Answer by pookiekins34 at 11:35 AM on Jul. 5, 2011

  • full time job, I would be checking to see if they can afford to move out on their own or what bills they are paying on the side. if they can afford I would set up a rent rule and set out a list of things they need to be doing for themselves like their own laundry, cleaning their own room, helping with dishes or something along those lines. It's time to set your foot down momma and let them know that things need to change!
    zoejains_momma

    Answer by zoejains_momma at 11:37 AM on Jul. 5, 2011

  • Kick him out! He's 23 not 13.
    Imogine

    Answer by Imogine at 11:38 AM on Jul. 5, 2011

  • Take the stance of a landlord and tell him that since he is unwilling to pay rent, he will have to move out by a set date. And stick to your words!

    He needs to learn some independence.
    anng.atlanta

    Answer by anng.atlanta at 11:38 AM on Jul. 5, 2011

  • TEll him to pony up or get out.
    TempestRayne

    Answer by TempestRayne at 11:39 AM on Jul. 5, 2011

  • Stop buying them food, remove any phone & cable lines connecting their room, in fact just go ahead and disconnect the electricity in their room, are you paying anything on their car? stop that too. Life comes with bills. Won't pay it? Don't have it.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:39 AM on Jul. 5, 2011

  • Have you sat down and had a talk with him/her? Explain that hes old enough to start carrying his own weight. Living at home will have its perks. Rent will be cheaper, utilities will we cheaper (or not exsist....depending on what you want him to help with), furniture and such is provided. But if he/she's not going to start taking some responsibility for themselves, then they can find their own place, and see how hard it can really be.
    mlmkjw

    Answer by mlmkjw at 11:39 AM on Jul. 5, 2011

  • We always had a rule in the house that unless we were in school full time we had to pay rent or move out. My parents didn't budge on it and it seemed to work since neither of us are still living at home :)

    Just put your foot down... he's 23 years old he should be able to live on his own and not at home with mom and dad.
    RigPrincess85

    Answer by RigPrincess85 at 11:41 AM on Jul. 5, 2011

  • Bye bye! Kick 'em out, or make 'em pay!
    alphamom26

    Answer by alphamom26 at 11:41 AM on Jul. 5, 2011

  • either kick them out or make them pay rent or at least set an amount that they are required to give u each month why would they want to move out when they have everything paid for and are living free
    jasmineb614

    Answer by jasmineb614 at 11:42 AM on Jul. 5, 2011

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