I've had a lot on my plate lately with things like dealing with panic/anxiety attacks, getting put on Lexapro and as of last week losing my job. On top of this, I'm at my wits end with my SO. Since i've taken the steps to really get some help, he has been nothing but mean and condescending. Before this, and more so now, he has blamed me for his temper tantrums, yells at me for petty things in front of our son which makes me even more upset, has called me names like worthless, lazy, and irresponsible. I find it rather absurd since i'm the one who was working and paid all the bills. The rent, the cable, the electricity, the heat & hot water. Everytime he does this, he makes it out like I don't do anything. He doesn't care that he hurts my feelings and yesterday went so far as to do the laundry, which he never does. Except out of spite, he didn't do any of mine, just his and our son's. I'm sick of it.
I just want to know if there are other women out there who can give me pointers on how to just let this go. I know what I have to do, and I will do it. The problem is down the road thinking it will get better if I let him back in. Any suggestions?
Answer by Anna92464 at 1:06 PM on Jul. 5, 2011
I was in this situation and left. I learned how to be alone and really focused on learning what I needed to do with me and what my short comings were. Once I realized that he was just being insecure and using me as an excuse it got alot better. We are back together and I just ignore his grumpy moods and temper tantrums and the funny thing is, he realizes now, that it is him. I pray alot and I say nothing instead of arguing and the mood stops a hundred times quicker than it used to. You have to make the decision if you are willing to stay and get over it or not. Good luck.
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