I'm so frustrated. My graduate who is 18 still refuses to get a job. Has not been coming home at his curfew time. (he only has a curfew because he has not got a job or a plan) Well he has a plan but tells me he doesn't have to tell me what he plans to do and when. I have taken his phone away hoping he would want one bad enough to go get a job..what happens..his Dad hands him and I-touch that he can text on. He stays up all night playing a video game on the computer. Keeps me and my husband awake all night..and then he sleeps all day until like 3-4pm. So I take away his computer priviledge. What happens? His father gives him a laptop for graduation and tells him..there..now you can stay off your Mom's stuff. GRRR It is not about him using my stuff..its about him being responsible! My husband is so frustrated with my son and my ex that he and I got into a huge fight and almost split up this weekend. (he is tired really from work too so I took it with a grain of salt). I don't know what to do anymore. His stupid father is filling his head that I need to get off his ASS..as he put it to me and so my son is so mean to me. I just want my son to grow up..get his life moving forward..I tell him it is ultimately his choice whatever he does..and he has such great qualities that he is capable of becoming anything he wants..He just puts me down and so does his Dad. but are you kidding..do you think his Dad will let him stay there? grrr What do I do?
What do I do?
Asked by Anonymous at 7:14 PM on Jul. 5, 2011 in Adult Children (18+)
Answer by Anonymous at 7:15 PM on Jul. 5, 2011
Answer by butterflyblue19 at 7:16 PM on Jul. 5, 2011
Answer by BeachyBabe at 7:26 PM on Jul. 5, 2011
Answer by purplerobin at 9:00 PM on Jul. 5, 2011
As hard as it would be, giving him an ultimatum is worth trying. Like previously said on here, a time-line with a severe consequence might just be the answer. Good luck!!!
Answer by Lynne313 at 9:05 PM on Jul. 5, 2011
Answer by southernlady184 at 9:06 PM on Jul. 5, 2011
Answer by purplerobin at 9:11 PM on Jul. 5, 2011
Answer by istealcookies at 11:23 PM on Jul. 5, 2011