My ds (7) is jealous of ss. It does seem that ss gets more attention and gifts, since he has bm, bm family, my inlaws, then dh and I. I try to explain to him that Mommy and Daddy (dh is the only daddy he has know since his was abusive and is not allowed, no wants to be around) love him very much, that we love all the boys, (mine 7 his 5 ours 2) all the same. It is hard to blend a family and I need advice. My ds acts up when his stepbrother is over. Also, inlaws have ss(5) alot because bm likes to have fun and tries to pull the "they love me better then you" high school crap. If only she could be a fly on the wall, she would think otherwise. Anyway, since ss is over at inlaws he gets alot more things, more time, and such. Also his sister which is no realtion to my dh and is 13 months older then ss from different daddy gets to spend time there to. Because bm wont let ss stay most of the time unless her daughter can to, who is like I said no realtion to any of our family. Ss was a product of a one night stand. Dh has been an amazing father to ss, my son, and the son we have together. However, my ds (7) gets angry and want to hit, glare, and just be plain ugly when ss is around. He say that "he gets everything and I get nothing". He feels so awkward with ss and his sister who isnt realtion over at his grandparents house. He feels he has no place in the family, and constaly wish it could be "just us" again. (the 2 of us) How can I make him understand the sitituion, and that grandparents (inlaws) love him to pieces, daddy loves him , brothers love him and of corse mommy? And how can we get him to be comfortable with everyone, and change his attitude? When it is just dh, my youngest and him he is a good boy. I just dont understand the drastic change. He has been in ss life for 4 years now. THis is difficult. Dh and I have been married 4 years, and the boys have all grwon up together. I get along fine with inlaws and the best I can with bm. I ignore her immaturity and lets things run off my shoulder, I am the bigger person so to speak. But friday when bm dropped off ss at inlaws (where my 2 were at while dh and I looked for a new vechile) for our summer visition (all of july) she said some things in front of my son. Let me say that first off I have been in ss life since he was 8 months old, she has hade mutilple men. This last one she is with now, they have been together 1 1/2 and she tells ss sto call him stepdaddy. My son said she told ss not to call me mom mama or stepma like he has been since he could talk, and that his little brother looked nothing like him, and he didnt have to follow rules at our house and that nobody loved (my son). ANd he heard all this, she did it to where he could. She also lets her bf spank my ss. I dont touch ss, I let his father handle it or I call her when he is bad. So anyway a little off track I am sorry, my son say to me today that he doesnt feel loved and ss is loved more. Now what????Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 11:43 PM on Jul. 5, 2011 in General Parenting
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