What do you do ?
I tried my hardest to raise them right - I have 4 children and all of them have turned out great - well except my youngest...
He just turned 19 and up until last year he was also a great kid, but then he found a new group of friends and he has been trouble ever since...
I still had hope for him, I could see that somewhere inside was a man just trying to get out, unfortunatly the immature teen keeps pushing the man away .
The most trouble he has caused though is having the girlfriend that he does... I honestly believe she has a huge impact on the way he acts... She is also 19 and has 2 children - one of them MIGHT be my grandaughter...
I love this little girl so much - in fact I am pretty much raising her... I am afriad to get a DNA test because i am afriad she wont be mine.
My son has been showing a side that he wants to change... ever since this litle girl was born, he will show some sensitivity, some kind of feeling of that good dad attitude, and then the "mother" will step up and stop the feelings as quick as they started.
I might just be writing this out of anger and disgust, and maybe part of me is hoping someone on here will say they once had a son who was like this and now they are a great person... I really hope he changes - I hope she changes too.
I usually do have this little girl with me... her mother cares more about spending all of her money on her expensive clothes and her hair and going out, her facebook literally has hundreds of photos of her partying, and only 3 of her little girl....
They got into a fight a few weeks ago, she came and got my grandaughter ( i tried everything to not let her take her, but she called the cops, and of course whens he said she is the mother and I am just her boyfriends mother ( notice she said that, not caslling me the grandma) - they let her take her...
Well yesterday morning I got her back--- she dropped her off, and i literally mean she dropped her off... let her out of the car, beeped the car horn and as i opened the front door she was already going down the street.
I spent most of the night in the ER because she has such a bad yeast infection .... the doctor said it was caused by not bathing and her wet pullup not being changed ...
Today I am on my way up town to figure out how I can legally keep her... I just dont understand how anyone can treat a child like that, especially one as beautiful as her... It makes me sick to think of what else she has had to go through these last few weeks...
Any advice from others who have been through this too?
Asked by Anonymous at 8:11 AM on Jul. 6, 2011 in Parenting Debate
Answer by kit_manson at 8:20 AM on Jul. 6, 2011
Answer by tootoobusy at 8:30 AM on Jul. 6, 2011
Answer by treynlisa at 8:43 AM on Jul. 6, 2011
Answer by lecates at 8:47 AM on Jul. 6, 2011
Answer by lecates at 8:49 AM on Jul. 6, 2011
Answer by itsmesteph11 at 8:54 AM on Jul. 6, 2011
Answer by Verrine at 8:54 AM on Jul. 6, 2011
Is your son listed as the dad on the birth certificate? If not you are going to have to go get that DNA test. The first thing she is going to claim in any court if you try to get custody is that your son is not the father. If he is on the BC at least you have proof that she was leading you all to believe he was.
Answer by Alanaplus3 at 11:46 AM on Jul. 6, 2011
Answer by Ms.Gwen at 12:27 PM on Jul. 6, 2011