you are the park
your child is young (3-7)
there are six, seven kids playing together
one child (3.5) joins the group of kids
this child joins the circle of kids, starts to flap hands, turning in circles, looking at ceiling, moving head back and forth and making odd humming noises
(you do not know this child, you might see this child is showing all classic autism signs)
all the other six/seven kids now are doing exactly the same thing as the child who just joined the circle of children, all kids are laughing and having fun
(they are not being rude, disturbing others, no unsafe behavior etc etc etc)
just kids being kids
all kids are being nice, not mocking the new child, just think what she is doing is silly and they all copy this and laugh and are having fun
now all seven/eight kids are flapping hands, staring at the sky, moving head back and forth, making odd humming sounds, and turning around and around in circles
1st-do you see that this is classic autism stimming?
2nd - if you know this is autism trait...
what do you FEEL when you see your child acting in this autistic" way?
(the children are all very accepting of the child doing the classic autism thing- so no need to jump in and explain to be nice to your child, the child is not physically unable to play- no need to jump in because the new child will get hurt-there is no bad behavoir or dangerous play)
how do you feel to see your "typical/normal" child acting like they have autism?
Answer by Austinsmom35 at 4:46 PM on Jul. 6, 2011
Answer by Mom1127-0125 at 9:46 AM on Jul. 6, 2011
Answer by SleepingBeautee at 10:21 AM on Jul. 6, 2011
Honestly, when my kids were that young I didn't know enough about Autism to know that those were signs - my brother has mild Autism/Asperger's but he wasn't diagnosed with this until a few years ago (for the first 7 years of his life we were just told he had brain damage from drugs his parents gave him and he was a foster child so my parents we stuck following what the state mandated). If my child had been one of those in your scenario, I would have watched cautiously to make sure no one got hurt, but I would not have panicked.
Answer by scout_mom at 9:45 AM on Jul. 6, 2011
Answer by Mom-2-3-Girlz at 10:14 AM on Jul. 6, 2011
Answer by SleepingBeautee at 10:15 AM on Jul. 6, 2011
I'll bet they thought you would think they were making fun of her. I wouldn't rule out that at least one figured the stimming was disturbing and didn't want their kid acting that way. From what I've experienced with my own son with autism,unless the other parent had a child/knew a child with autism,they act like it will rub off on their kid unfortunately. i can remember this past school year meeting the parents of one of my son's friends and look of horror on their faces when they realized their kids was friends with my autistic son....
Answer by butterflyblue19 at 11:19 AM on Jul. 6, 2011
Answer by Mom1127-0125 at 9:42 AM on Jul. 6, 2011