Right now the plan is for me to get licensed (midwifery) and build a practice. Once my practice is large enough my husband will quit work, stay home with the kids and run my books. It will kind of be like a family business.
I know this can work... on paper. If I do 5 births a month we will be making double what we make now with him working full time. But I worry about a lot of things.
Will he be up to being Mr. Mom? Will he nurture them the way I do? We parent a little differently, he is a little bit harsher. The benefit to midwifery is that I won't be working 9-5 M-F, it will be probably 2 full days in the office, a half day at the office and then births, home visits, postpartums and occasionally emergency appointments. Will my kids hate me for going back to work? Will my husband feel like less of a man because he will be working, essentially, for me, and not bringing in money of his own?
And what do the dynamics look like in your house, if you are the breadwinner? How does your partner feel about you "bringing home the bacon"?
I also wonder about household chores and such. He was out of work for a couple of months years ago (before we had kids) while I was working full time. He never cleaned, he never cooked, nothing, just did what he wanted after looking for a job. I wonder if he will be able to keep up the house AND care for the kids AND cook. He works hard at his job, but it's very linear, and being a stay at home parent is anything but. it's not harder, it's just very different.
What do you guys think?
Answer by older at 10:16 AM on Jul. 6, 2011
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