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Do you think a woman should have to pay her lazy ex husband spousal support if he refused to get a job while married?

My aunt is being threatened with being forced to pay spousal support for her no good ex who refused to get a job while they were married. She finally divorced him because of it. He is now an alcoholic and she's afraid to send their son to see him so she wanted to get his rights revoked and now he's saying if she does that he'll get a court order for her to pay spousal support. And he can DO that!! He never had an effing job, STILL doesn't, and doesn't pay child support!!! How the hell is that legal or moral??? I can understand if it was a stay at home mom or dad but this is crap!

 
MarlyeGirl

Asked by MarlyeGirl at 3:48 PM on Dec. 16, 2008 in Politics & Current Events

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Answers (8)
  • the court system isn't fair so that is why you make sure you are marrying a good man before hand. she didn't so i guess now she is paying for it. literally.
    melody77

    Answer by melody77 at 6:42 PM on Dec. 16, 2008

  • in the courts eye he was the stay at home parent yes its crap but what about the men who have to pay there wifes spousel support cause they never worked same thing.
    Mommy2B04

    Answer by Mommy2B04 at 3:52 PM on Dec. 16, 2008

  • How, if he is not taking care of child anymore, is it right for her to pay him? It's not really the same thing because usually women end up taking the children and therefore it's right for the parent not taking care of children to pay for parent that IS taking care of children! Sorry! I think that's lame!
    Monnek

    Answer by Monnek at 3:56 PM on Dec. 16, 2008

  • My cousin, this happened in OH just for reference, got stuck in that situation. Her husband bounced around from crap job to crap job, never could hold one down. She had a very well-paying job and her son was in daycare the whole time they were married. When she finally left him she had to pay alimony to him because she was the breadwinner of the family.

    He was getting a lot of money from her to move back into his mom's house and play video games after the divorce. Meanwhile she still had to pay daycare and everything for their son who only visited Dad twice a month. It was really not right.
    Slinkee

    Answer by Slinkee at 4:02 PM on Dec. 16, 2008

  • Answered at 3:52 PM on Dec. 16, 2008 by: Mommy2B04
    in the courts eye he was the stay at home parent yes its crap but what about the men who have to pay there wifes spousel support cause they never worked same thing.

    there's a difference between REFUSING to work and being a stay at home parent
    MarlyeGirl

    Answer by MarlyeGirl at 4:21 PM on Dec. 16, 2008

  • MarlyeGirl - Yes, there is a difference between refusing to work and being a stay at home parent but in the eyes of the court that may be hard to prove. How do you prove someone is lazy and refuses to work? Unfortunate as it is, it is legal.

    Madge1428

    Answer by Madge1428 at 4:42 PM on Dec. 16, 2008

  • It might be worth paying if she fears for her son's safety when he visits.
    Momtocccd

    Answer by Momtocccd at 5:13 PM on Dec. 16, 2008

  • If women can do it, why can't men? He was accustomed to a certain life that was provided for by his wife (regardless if he refused to get a job or not)...
    prettylob1

    Answer by prettylob1 at 5:13 PM on Dec. 16, 2008

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