i posted a question the other day about how i just found out recently that my husband shook our daughter when she was 4 months old. she's 2 and a half now. he fabricated a story that i believed because i had known him since we were kids and i was naive and stupid. the original question was called "crushed" if you want to look it up for more details. but i also found out that his mom knew the truth too and i feel both of them lied to me and used me to keep him out of going to prison for 20 years, which is the maximum punishment for child cruelty. thanks to me talking to the da he got off with aggravated assault and 10 years probation.
anyway, i made him go to his mom's for the time being while i figure out what to do next. i feel that logically i should divorce him, for hurting my child, keeping something like that from me, and finally using me to keep him out of jail. but the kids do miss and love him, and since all i want to do is what's best for them, it makes my decision even harder. he also had been back from a 15 month deployment for almost 5 months when the injury occured, and has recently been diagnosed with ptsd and depression. my dad is telling me to go to counseling with him, figure out why he lied and if he feels guilty at all and if i can move past this, while literally everyone else is telling me to dump him like yesterday's garbage.
i know two things for sure, i will never trust him or his mom again and i will never leave either of them alone with my kids. if his mom could look the other way knowing what her son did and protect him over her granddaughter, she's a piece of shit and doesn't deserve to have a relationship with them. i remember the day he got convicted she was pissed he got 10 years probation and said, "hasn't he suffered enough!?" KNOWING what he did! i don't know if i can forgive either of them for this ultimate betrayal. and i certainly don't want my daughter to resent me for sticking by a man that would hurt her in such a way. but he thinks if he's loving and caring then she'll understand when she's older.
Asked by Anonymous at 1:42 PM on Jul. 6, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by MeandMyBabes at 2:02 PM on Jul. 6, 2011
Answer by momavanessa at 1:47 PM on Jul. 6, 2011
Answer by gdiamante at 1:53 PM on Jul. 6, 2011
What's the point of being with the father of your kids if you can't even trust him to be alone with your kids or you can't forgive what he did? (I don't think I can) God forbid he does something again & you definitely know your MIL will cover him GL!
Answer by VanillaBlondie8 at 1:49 PM on Jul. 6, 2011
Answer by hellokittykat at 1:55 PM on Jul. 6, 2011
Answer by inahan at 2:02 PM on Jul. 6, 2011
Answer by mommy_of_two388 at 4:31 PM on Jul. 6, 2011
Answer by AF4life at 1:48 PM on Jul. 6, 2011
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