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A friend of mine (TMI)

cut herself just once (as in self-mutalation) and her ex boss saw the marks and my friend is looking for a job, do you think the ex boss would say anything? or would the ex boss not recommend her to anyone do you think?? she was a good worker and didn't cut until AFTER she was laid off.

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Asked by Anonymous at 6:09 PM on Jul. 6, 2011 in Money & Work

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  • but the marks were pretty bad they went halfway up her arm : /

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 6:09 PM on Jul. 6, 2011

  • If it wasn't relevant to her working for him, then he shouldn't say anything. But I don't know what type of person he is so you never know.

    Answer by MrsMWF at 6:12 PM on Jul. 6, 2011

  • she was a great worker for 3 years but yelled at the boss one time at the end of her working there, then she quit with 2 weeks notice. then her time was extended for another 2 weeks after that. it's not like the boss couldn't stand her..just had some difficult times ONCE to the point my friend took it a little too far. her boss was also her boyfriends aunt.

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 6:15 PM on Jul. 6, 2011

  • No. He cannot really say anything about the marks on her arms. That would not be a good legal move for him. But, he can mention the altercation . . . with caution.

    Usually bosses don't give terrible reviews because they are too worried about being sued.

    Answer by ImaginationMama at 6:32 PM on Jul. 6, 2011

  • nice

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 9:10 PM on Jul. 6, 2011

  • I think a health issue would be covered under HIPAA. Most former employers limit what information they give to only start and end dates of employment (if they have any sense at all).

    Answer by tasches at 7:38 PM on Jul. 7, 2011

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