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What if You walk in the rommof you step daughter humping her big stuffed bear!!??

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EmmaPool

Asked by EmmaPool at 11:14 AM on Jul. 7, 2011 in Teens (13-17)

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  • i would talk to her about hows she feeling and explain that its normal, but she should not do it infront of people..only in her room. explain thats its ok to want/have private time. and that its healthy
    MonkeyMommyNJ

    Answer by MonkeyMommyNJ at 11:16 AM on Jul. 7, 2011

  • thanks i mean i kinda didnt know what to tell her so i yelled at her and i feel bad knowing that she is 15 and knows that stuff and wants to do that but it is on the other hand it is something she should not worry about yet..
    EmmaPool

    Comment by EmmaPool (original poster) at 11:21 AM on Jul. 7, 2011

  • So what???
    Why would you embarrass a 15 year old who is masturbating?
    You should have just walked out and never spoke of it
    butterflyblue19

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 11:26 AM on Jul. 7, 2011

  • Be happy it was a stuffed bear and not a teenage boy.
    My3Ez

    Answer by My3Ez at 11:27 AM on Jul. 7, 2011

  • well i mean she has done it with a guy and i dont want her to get pregnat and 16 also i am glad it was a stuffed bear not her boyfriend..
    EmmaPool

    Comment by EmmaPool (original poster) at 11:32 AM on Jul. 7, 2011

  • oh shes 15..thats what i would do for 10 and under...for 15 i would expain it similar, but be a little more intricate..explaining the medical facts..and i would have the sex convo. For me, i would educate her on safe sex, pregnancy. I would want her to be well prepared. I wouldnt be thrilled if she was having sex at 15 but i wouldnt be mad..as long as she is being smart about it. I had consentual for the first time at 14 (virginity was taken by force at a young age). I would explain theat it is never a necessity. Like if a boy will only dater her for that reason then he is not worth dating. and to value herself. For me i want my kids to be open and honest. i feel that if they are honest, and know that i wont get angry, i will be able to educate them properly on the pros and cons (on anythin sex, drugs ect.)..and therefore be less likely end up in a life threatening situation
    MonkeyMommyNJ

    Answer by MonkeyMommyNJ at 11:33 AM on Jul. 7, 2011

  • thanks for the advice ...im going to go talk to her ....im not "mad" but im a lil upset.
    EmmaPool

    Comment by EmmaPool (original poster) at 11:42 AM on Jul. 7, 2011

  • ask her if she needs to talk about it. and it sounds like she needs to talk about it ,
    brittbritt103

    Answer by brittbritt103 at 12:02 PM on Jul. 7, 2011

  • she is obviously really curious about sex or likes the idea of it.. its more than time to sit and talk to her so you know whats going on.
    acha1985

    Answer by acha1985 at 12:30 PM on Jul. 7, 2011

  • Was her door closed? If so, you really should have knocked. A 15 year old deserves the respect of a knock. If not, then yelling at her was appropriate in the heat of the moment and now that you have calmed down you may speak to her about privacy issues
    hollydaze1974

    Answer by hollydaze1974 at 3:57 PM on Jul. 7, 2011

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