My niece is 1 year old. Her parents have problems, a lot of problems. Her father is a druggie and an alcoholic. Her mother has bad dependency issues, and is beyond passive. They both put themselves before my niece and its sickening. On a good note, the father is finally out of the picture. My sil, the mom has moved in with her father & stepmom whom I am extremely close with. We talk daily, shes my best friend. (The stepmom.) anyway, I always knew my niece was a helliun, the last time i saw her she pulled my nephews hair out of his head bc he was into his video game & not her. Literally, hair was out of his head, and in her hand... Her mothers reaction? An extremely passive "no, honey. U are something else...." And that was it. I talked to my mil who is trying to care for her own 7 kids, and my sil and niece now. She told me my niece terrorizes her kids. Bites until blood is drawn, pulls hair out of heads, hits, screams, tells them "shut up b****" and calls them "stupid b****" my nieces mom has the audacity to fuss at my mils kids for being afraid of her and not wanting to play. There is no discipline, she will not allow others to dicipline... We are all at a loss. We are so frustrated. My niece is a beautiful little girl with so much potential. she is very smart. But she isn't being raised.... At all. I can't even say she's being raised wrong, she just isnt being raised at all. I want to help her so bad, my sil will not talk to anyone or listen to anyone. She gets defensive and walks out when ur trying to say things in the most polite way possible. She doesn't seem to realise its about her daughters well being, not about rediculing her. None of us are extremely strict or believe in disciplining with violence, but she won't listen to suggestions. She shrugs us off repetitively. I need to know how I can help my niece, but were at a loss on how....
PLEASE HELP OR BUMP OR COMMENT TO KEEP THIS POST ACTIVE AS POSSIBLE. WE NEED EVERY SUGGESTION WE CAN POSSIBLY GET. We wont give up on her, we can't.
Asked by Anonymous at 2:29 PM on Jul. 7, 2011 in Toddlers (1-2)
Answer by Anonymous at 2:32 PM on Jul. 7, 2011
Answer by LoreleiSieja at 2:38 PM on Jul. 7, 2011
Answer by LoreleiSieja at 2:41 PM on Jul. 7, 2011
Answer by ImaginationMama at 2:43 PM on Jul. 7, 2011
Answer by ImaginationMama at 2:53 PM on Jul. 7, 2011
You may want to call CPS for advise. As your niece gets older and bigger these issues will get bigger too. Your step mom may need to come up with house rules for all living in her house. This almost 2-year-old sounds like a bad influence on the rest of the family because she's not disciplined. CPS may be able to scare her into being a better parent by threatening to take her child away due to the child's bad behavior.
Answer by JSD24 at 4:27 PM on Jul. 7, 2011