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3 Bumps

Is there a difference, to you...

Do you feel that cheating, and the intent to cheat, are equally as bad?
First, let me say, this is NOT about my life, or my relationship...

So my 2 best friends are having the same problem with their men... They both caught their fiances, texting other girls. And not just flity texting, it was the "i want you so bad right now" and "are you down to f*ck"..
Both men claim that nothing ACTUALLY happened.. They never met up or saw these girls..It never got that far.. Uh huh.. But anyways, personally, I feel that their actions were just as bad. Just because timing didnt work in their favor is the only reason it "didnt happen". At least that is my view on it.

So I give it to you mamas... What do you think?
Is it just as bad? Could you get passed it? Could you trust them again?

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Asked by Mme.Langley at 8:10 PM on Jul. 7, 2011 in Relationships

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Answers (17)
  • same.

    Answer by dullscissors at 8:12 PM on Jul. 7, 2011

  • It is equally as bad.

    Answer by emmyandlisa at 8:13 PM on Jul. 7, 2011

  • these don't sound like stable relationships. doesn't sound like they're open relationships, so, yes, intention to cheat is just as bad as if they actually went through with it. I wouldn't trust someone like that. these men don't have any respect for their partners and should be kicked to the curb.

    Answer by mmsfirstone at 8:13 PM on Jul. 7, 2011

  • same in my book. If not this time, I'm sure next time things will go all the way.. Sounds like they are looking for the right "loose" girl to get lucky with..

    Answer by midnightmoma at 8:16 PM on Jul. 7, 2011

  • it's the same. if you're talking to someone like that you PLAN to cheat and it is only a matter of time

    Answer by zoejains_momma at 8:20 PM on Jul. 7, 2011

  • I agree w/midnightmoma

    Answer by PatriciaofMN at 8:27 PM on Jul. 7, 2011

  • Just as bad, if I ever saw that my DH sent another woman a text like that, he had better hope I don't have a knife in my hand! Good thing he would never do that, he also knows what would happen. ;)

    Answer by AF4life at 8:32 PM on Jul. 7, 2011

  • Just as bad!

    Answer by Mom-2-3-Girlz at 8:39 PM on Jul. 7, 2011

  • Thinking and doing ARE two different things, but they're both equally as bad, in my eyes.

    Answer by .MhacFoirfe. at 8:51 PM on Jul. 7, 2011

  • Same to me, intent is just as bad really.

    Answer by AmaliaD at 8:53 PM on Jul. 7, 2011

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