I have a friend who is divorcing her husband. She is a mom to a boy about the same age as my youngest, and she hovers - and I don't mean like just a little over protective, I mean she follows this 7 yr old boy around the yard and picks him up if he trips and stands under him when he's on the jungle gym.
I know she is going through a lot with this divorce. The thing is, she comes to me for everything - wanting me to tell her how to fill out her divorce papers (and I am NOT a lawyer), wanting to vent about anything and everything going on with her divorce, whenever she doesn't know how to do something with her computer or anything else.
I want to be a supportive friend. But I work from home, have 2 kids of my own, a home to take care of and trying to work things out with my ex, possibly. She is constantly emailing me, messaging me on Facebook, calling me, etc. It's gotten to the point where I ignore her emails and stuff and pretend I was away from the computer or something.
How can I be a supportive friend while still maintaining some distance and keeping my own life? I've tried talking to her about it, but she just doesn't get it. And I'm afraid if I try to talk to her again, with as frustrated as I'm feeling at this point, that I'm likely to say it all wrong and really hurt her feelings, which I don't want to do if I don't have to.
She's really very nice, but she doesn't seem to have any friends other than me, but I just can't keep doing this. I don't mind giving her a shoulder to cry on now and then, or doing a little tech support when I know what the issue is and how to fix it, but it's the constant, neverending barrage that is just...exhausting.
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