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Your Family or Your Significant Other?

Ever been put in the middle? Ever feel like your bein a tug of war rope and no matter whos side you pick the other side will hate you?

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Asked by juggalo_mommi at 12:35 PM on Jul. 8, 2011 in Relationships

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  • Depends on who i think is right.

    Answer by sugamama3 at 12:37 PM on Jul. 8, 2011

  • Yup.. I just tell them both if you can't get along then I'll cut you both out. It would really depend on the situation.. I suppose..If I really did it.

    Answer by SuperrMommyy at 12:37 PM on Jul. 8, 2011

  • My family respects my marriage enough not to even put us in such a situation. His family has no respect and has tried to put us in that situation. He and I are the bigger people. We smile and nod and deal with it. His aunts and uncles will not ruin my kids' relationships with their grandparents over petty nonsense. If that means I am the only adult in the scenario then so be it.

    Answer by pookiekins34 at 12:39 PM on Jul. 8, 2011

  • I usually feel like no matter when it is, I either have my mom or my SO mad at me. They usually correlate between the two. When things go good with my SO, my mom seems mad. When things are good with my mom, my SO seems mad. I always feel like I can't make them both happy at the same time. But to have to choose, I would choose my mother, for the simple fact that my SO is no longer signifigant to me, but that's a whole other story.

    Answer by DJsMommy610 at 12:40 PM on Jul. 8, 2011

  • i wouldmn't put up with it from either side. My husband does come before anybody, but he wouldn't be stupid enough to pull anything like that, neither would my parents

    Answer by Zakysmommy at 12:40 PM on Jul. 8, 2011

  • they just dont get along. and i have them tell me hes no good, he'll just end up abusing me or my son.. then i have him tell me they use me n they just want to see me miserable.. i tell them both to shut up, but i can feel the hatred whenever they're around eachother. its like i feel the negative energy everytime they're in the same room, even in just passing. he tells me how much he cant stand them, ten minutes later im told i better do something about him.

    Comment by juggalo_mommi (original poster) at 12:41 PM on Jul. 8, 2011

  • I've been there many many many times...LOL. I try to see things from both side, and bring in a compromise. And I go with who I feel is "right", but usually its a bit on both sides. But I dont believe there should ever be an ultimatum. If my family told be them or him, I'd pull away from them. Not because he's right, but because relationships should never come down to ultimatums.


    Answer by mlmkjw at 12:46 PM on Jul. 8, 2011

  • I don't have this problem, my family respects my marriage enough not to put me in this situation and my husband respects me enough not to put me in it either.

    Answer by AF4life at 12:47 PM on Jul. 8, 2011

  • Def your family. Family is forever!

    Answer by makeadifferance at 12:48 PM on Jul. 8, 2011

  • then i guess i shouldve left him a while ago for givin me an ultamatium between him n a friend of mine who said he loved me as a friend. then again i never picked a person n i still have them both, even tho my SO hates the guy

    Comment by juggalo_mommi (original poster) at 12:51 PM on Jul. 8, 2011

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