My fiance and I just had a huge fight and now im sitting here in tears. We live long distance and i understand that sometimes it gets really hard. But this was a fight about my past. Everyone has a past, and before he and I started dating we were long distance friends and I went through a phase of self hatred and tried to fix my feelings through intimate contact (not something I'm proud of by any means). It's not who I actually am and I went to therapy for it. But whenever he brings up the past I end up in tears. He always says, "you weren't the girl I thought you were" "you were just a ho to them" "Just a p***y" to them" and it really really really hurts, because I never meant to hurt him by any means and if i could change the past I wouldn't have done that way. But he actually said to me tonight "maybe we should break up for a while so I can understand why you did what you did?" It hurts so badly and I'm so angry at the same time! I just wish he could stop bringing up the past like this. He promised me he would stop with these stupid fights we seem to have every 4-6 months over the gosh darn same thing. Why can't he just get over it and be with me because he loves me... my past has nothing to do with it. It was before him! I just dont understand. I have no idea if this even makes sense as I cant even think straight.
Asked by Anonymous at 1:03 AM on Jul. 9, 2011 in Relationships
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