Long story short my Oldest sons Bio dad has been MIA since I was 6 months pregnant. We were younger ( I was 17 he was 20) when we got pregnant. The week that I concieved the baby I got drunk and slept with 2 other people. Which is basically why Bio left. There was so much going on that we just didnt know how to where to begin to fix it. So we walked away from a messy situation. Bio has been calling on and off for the past 3 years and always says hes changed and wants to be in sons life but then he disappears again. But over the last few months hes stuck around (normally he disappears after a week) and has been talking to son and with me. He's coming back from the road in Sept. where we are getting a DNA test (finally) and will find out if he's his (they look alot of alike). Well my son doesnt call him dad he calls him by the first name because I don't want to confuse him. He's called two men dad in the past. But we want to introduce them after the DNA test comes back yes. I just don't know how to go about this that will make my son the most comfortable. Bio plans to move here and be in his life 100% and we have even talked about starting over (we're highschool sweethearts)..I just dont want my son to be confused. Any suggestions?
Answer by MrsLLove at 1:32 PM on Jul. 9, 2011
Answer by SleepingBeautee at 1:27 PM on Jul. 9, 2011
Take it slow. Since this is posted in preschoolers, I'm assuming that your son is 3 or 4. Go out just the 3 of you to the park or the zoo or maybe just for diner. You need to reacquaint yourself with him as well as acquaint your son to his dad. I wouldn't tell your son until you know or sure and maybe not until you have an idea if you'll become a family. At 3 or4 he's not going to understand what a dad means from just he word. This man needs to show he's the dad through his actions first. The words can come later after a relationship is established.
Answer by JSD24 at 1:40 PM on Jul. 9, 2011
Answer by Christmaslver68 at 7:07 AM on Jul. 11, 2011
Answer by gwen20 at 1:28 PM on Jul. 9, 2011
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