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What do you think of this situation?

So i know my husband loves our kids but whenever he is home i ask him to watch the kids while i take a shower or make em lunch or do the dishes or laundry and ect... but every time i ask him for help he makes me feel like im making him watch our kids like its not his responsibility. And whenever his daughter from a previous marriage comes to visit he acts like he is so excited to get her but after having her for a week he says he FEELS like he wants to give her up. Whats his f**king deal??

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megclark22

Asked by megclark22 at 11:54 PM on Jul. 9, 2011 in Relationships

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Answers (8)
  • Well you can love someone but not want to make the effort, you know? Like love them from a distance? Sorry mama, hope it gets better.
    emmyandlisa

    Answer by emmyandlisa at 11:59 PM on Jul. 9, 2011

  • I would be frustrated too, he sounds a bit immature in the kid respect. Thats horrible what he says about his daughter. Just sounds like he doesn't particularly enjoy being a parent or at least the work that goes with it.

    good luck
    tntmom1027

    Answer by tntmom1027 at 12:01 AM on Jul. 10, 2011

  • sounds like he doesnt really want the responsibilities that come along with having kids
    ciaras_mom_05

    Answer by ciaras_mom_05 at 12:09 AM on Jul. 10, 2011

  • Sounds like he wants to be their friend and not their dad. Kind of like yea, come over my house we'll play for 2 hours but then you gotta leave. Tell him to man up!....Period!
    YellowBaby

    Answer by YellowBaby at 12:19 AM on Jul. 10, 2011

  • If only it were that easy to tell someone to Man-up period. You just cant make them do things if its not in their heart.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:41 AM on Jul. 10, 2011

  • if i were you i would leave him with the kiddos for an entire weekend and go on a mimi stay- cation with the girl friends..that'll show him what you go through day in and day out. maybe that might give him a better understanding of what you do and he might want to be more of a help to you- OR it might back fire in your face lol..
    gwen20

    Answer by gwen20 at 1:29 AM on Jul. 10, 2011

  • If he isn't used to caring for the kids alone on a regular basis it can be overwhelming, he just sounds like he isn't sure of himself or what he should be doing to entertain the kids. Give him some ideas and encourage his efforts.

    RyansMom001

    Answer by RyansMom001 at 6:49 AM on Jul. 10, 2011

  • yes men some are like that...
    GlitteribonMom

    Answer by GlitteribonMom at 2:31 PM on Jul. 10, 2011

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