Once you realize the kids are playing you against, hubby and he sees it too, that's the first step. Both of you have to put your foot down and tell the kids you know what they are doing and it's not going to work. That from now on BOTH of you will talk about whatever it is they are asking about and make a decision. The lying is a little harder to deal with but can be done. First and foremost call them on it then a punishment for lying is called for. Taking away phone, games, fav shows on TV, computer time, play time. Whatever fits your kids. Stick t your guns and don't waver at all. It will be frustrating and aggravating, but I guarantee, it can be done. Good luck.
at 1:43 PM on Jul. 10, 2011