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Help with 16 year old.

Help with 16 year old.

My Son friends use to come around to our house. My husband has stop them from coming round because consider them a bad influence on my Son. Some of these boys have been getting in the trouble with the police and getting expel from school .

Now my Son goes out to see them and coming back late.

My concern is what is he doing when he's out there with these boys that are his friends. When they were coming round at least I knew what he was up to.

Please give me some advice cafemoms

 
crystalripple

Asked by crystalripple at 5:20 PM on Jul. 10, 2011 in Teens (13-17)

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Answers (11)
  • #crystalripple lol...ok good!!! ;)
    Blakesgirl31

    Answer by Blakesgirl31 at 6:02 PM on Jul. 10, 2011

  • I can clearly understand why you would rather them just come to your house so atleast you would know what was going on. However, if your husband feels this group of boys are a bad influence then your son should not be hanging with them at all. Have you tried talking to your son and letting him know how concerned you are and how you feel? Is there any other friends that he can hang with besides these friends? I would try and talk to him of your concerns. I just feel being open and honest is best. Your son needs to feel he can come and talk to you about anything. That is very important. Keeping open communication is always best.
    Kellyjude1

    Answer by Kellyjude1 at 5:55 PM on Jul. 10, 2011

  • either that or you can contact your local police department and have them help you put a scare into him that will last for a long time and then maybe he'll straighten up
    Christmaslver68

    Answer by Christmaslver68 at 5:35 PM on Jul. 10, 2011

  • My mom is going through this exact same thing . With my brother he's 16, I'm 31. U sure this isn't u mom? Just kidding. But the grounding doesn't work for him. For instance, yesterday at 11:30pm my brother calls ME(he never calls unless he's dying...) Says can I come over, I'm done with band "practice". I immediately think something is up. So. He comes over ,lo and behold he HAS SOME CHICK WITH HIM AND I FLIP,MY LID. SO HE SAYS HER PARENTS ARE COPS, THEY KNEW SHE WA S COMING HOME THEY JUST LOCKED HER OUT. NOW I'M NOT STUPID. IF THEY "knew" they wouldn't have and so my mom comes and picks him up I kicked chick out of my house I guess her friend picked her up, THE KICKER? My MOM HAS THE BALLS TO TELL ME I NEED TO APOLOGISE TO THE GIRL!!! Uh no, she was in MY HOUSE UNINVITED. SO I FEEL YOUR PAIN..ALL TO WELL..
    Blakesgirl31

    Answer by Blakesgirl31 at 5:40 PM on Jul. 10, 2011

  • Good luck!!!! I hope he gets on track! My dad even took the door hinges off his room. So no door,no privacy!
    Blakesgirl31

    Answer by Blakesgirl31 at 5:46 PM on Jul. 10, 2011

  • Ground him when he breaks crew-few.
    mommy_of_two388

    Answer by mommy_of_two388 at 5:25 PM on Jul. 10, 2011

  • grounding a 16 year old may not help I would take something away that he really values--car; computer; cell phone etc and see of that helps
    Christmaslver68

    Answer by Christmaslver68 at 5:33 PM on Jul. 10, 2011

  • yes take something from him. even change his school they have certain schools for trouble teens.contact the other kids parent since he might be going to there houses don`t give up do whatever it takes to put him on the right path
    sweets10453

    Answer by sweets10453 at 5:42 PM on Jul. 10, 2011

  • Because I made the "girl" feel uncomfortable...well if she wasnt doin anything with my brother there would be nothing to be uncomfortable about so I say GET TA STEPPIN!!!! LOL
    Blakesgirl31

    Answer by Blakesgirl31 at 5:44 PM on Jul. 10, 2011

  • Hi Blakesgirl31#
    It must be a teen thing..
    . Am not your mum!!! !lol Ilive in the UK
    Thanks for your reply
    crystalripple

    Comment by crystalripple (original poster) at 5:52 PM on Jul. 10, 2011