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Why is it

OK I noticed something interesting. 2 different ladies with similar situations got extremely different answers. One lady said that she was very close to her ex-husband and her man was having a very hard time dealing with it. A lot of people said to lose the man because he's controlling. Another lady said that her husband was close to his ex-wife and she was having a hard time dealing with it. She was told that she needs to tell her husband that all communication needs to be stopped. In both situation, neither had kids with their exes. The person who was close with their ex never hooked up to have lunch or anything like that, they were just "hey, how you doing" friends. I'm wondering why the first lady, it's ok for her to talk to her ex and the second lady, her husband can't talk to his?


Asked by Anonymous at 12:09 AM on Jul. 11, 2011 in Relationships

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Answers (4)
  • Being friends with your ex wile in another relationship is always a bad idea in my opinion

    Answer by AmberNicoley at 12:21 AM on Jul. 11, 2011

  • im sure its that double standard thing going on. but if the current partner is no ok with it regardless if its man or woman the contact with the ex needs to be cut back. its great that the exes are friends but still there has to be a limit on contact

    Answer by GypsyMoon605 at 12:23 AM on Jul. 11, 2011

  • Right. And in both cases there is limited contact. Actually more contact with the first lady and her ex. And it appears that the issue is just jealousy with no cause behind it.

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 12:27 AM on Jul. 11, 2011

  • I'll tell you why. It's because there is never enough information to form a really useful profile of the situation, so people have to work with what they have, and many times the question-asker just wants to hear that she's right and everybody else is an asshole, so people just talk out of their asses and tell people what they want to hear. And nobody but a true idiot would base their course of action on the say-so of a pile of random strangers armed with a whole paragraphs' worth of info, so no harm, no foul.

    Answer by Fistandantalus at 8:23 AM on Jul. 11, 2011