It's hard to be pregnant after a loss. I had a m/c with my first pregnancy, and quite honestly I worried a lot during my subsequent pregnancies, especially my middle child where I had some validly worrisome pregnancy complications. With my first and second living children, I worried a LOT right through the whole process. I regretted that, and with my third (and last) child I made a really concentrated effort to just enjoy the pregnancy regardless of the eventual outcome. My theory was this: that worrying would not change the outcome one iota, but would rob me of the enjoyment of the moment, and that I have never regretted the time I spent being happy in my first pregnancy, even though I ultimately did not get to have that baby. So I was going to enjoy the moment for it's own sake, being aware that I would never regret my happiness if something bad happened, but would regret my misery if nothing bad happened.
at 8:37 AM on Jul. 11, 2011