My niece is 5, and still in a car seat due to her height. The seat has a 5 point harness. When my sister straps her in, my niece folds her arms out of the shoulder part of the harness so she is now only strapped in at her waist. My sister lets her do this instead of tightening the harness so she can't. She doesn't see why she should have to listen to her daughter freak out every time they drive somewhere just so she is properly strapped in.
P.S. For all the mother's of autistic kids that love to say "You don't have an autistic child, so mind your own business." well, I would rather not have to see my sweet little niece snapped in half by her belt if they get into a car accident. I think it is everyone's business to make sure kids are safe, whether they are theirs or someone else's. I am not demeaning mother's of autistic kids. I am concerned about the safety of a child in my life that I love.
And yes, I have voiced my concerns to my sister, who has answered that "If she were in a regular seat she could unstrap herself all the way and then she'd be running around the car while I drove. It's better than nothing."
Maybe "its better than nothing" but I would rather listen to my kid scream and know they are safe than to allow them to do something that could get them seriously hurt or killed. My son hates his car seat too, but he doesn't scream any more because he knows that whether he screams or not, he is getting strapped in and he can't get out.
Please help with advice, moms. Should I talk to her again? What should I say?
Asked by Anonymous at 12:22 PM on Jul. 11, 2011 in General Parenting
Answer by MomOfDagJag at 12:35 PM on Jul. 11, 2011
as a parent of an autistic child i say instead of demeaning her parenting skills (because believe thats how she feels)......offer to help her find a car see they can both be happy with.....
Answer by cara124 at 12:38 PM on Jul. 11, 2011
Answer by missanc at 1:30 PM on Jul. 11, 2011
Answer by Telephus44 at 3:01 PM on Jul. 11, 2011
Answer by AmaliaD at 12:47 PM on Jul. 11, 2011