Find the best disciplinary procedure for each one of them. Start out with time-outs. Get yourself a timer, if you don't already have one, and find a different spot for each. Draw up a list of rules and display it where they both can see. Use pictures along with words showing inappropriate/unacceptable behavior if your 5 yr.old cannot read. Explain to them the consequence of violating one of the rules-that he/she will be placed in a time-out spot where they must remain until the bell or buzzer goes off. The timer should be set 1 minute for each of their ages, so 5 min. for the 5 yr.old and 8 min. for the 8 yr.old. You must be consistent and persistent with both. If this does not work for one or both of them, try punishment to fit the "crime" even if it involves spanking. "Different strokes for different folks." I raised 4 children, now adults, in this way. What worked for one did not necessarily work for another.
at 7:27 AM on Jul. 12, 2011