DH is a restaurant store manager, it is a pretty relaxed place. He has this shift manager, J, who is married to K, and they are openly swingers. (They are currently expecting a baby, and we are as well). J has told DH about different times where they have been with other couples, or he has watched K with another man, etc. She comes and hangs out for J's breaks and will talk to DH about how wonderful her sex skills are. DH feels awkward with HER, so he'll just excuse himself when she starts talking like that, and will walk away. When its just J and DH, DH doesn't think much of it because its 'just guys talking'. A few weeks ago, SO hurt his back and had to leave work early. He called J in, and K made up a little goodie box for him (food, a heating pad, popsyicles - one for DH, DD and myself, etc.). J called a few weekends ago so K could ask me a question (about pregnancy - I've never actually met her before). I had some baby stuff that I didn't need and they did, so I dropped it off at the store for them, and they came running out to the car to thank me. I just smiled and waved and took off. I've thought they were too 'friendly' for a while and don't want to make nice with them. Then last week J asked DH what DH thinks about K, is she attractive. She is very unattractive, but DH didn't want to be mean, so DH told him, "She is your wife, you're the only one who needs to think she is." and J wouldn't drop it. DH told him, "Dude, I don't feel comfortable talking to you like this about your wife." And J tells him, "Well she has really low self esteem and she thinks you're really handsome. Getting a compliment from you would make her feel really good." So DH basically said that she was pretty. The next day, an employee walks over to DH and says, "J is telling everyone you think his wife is hot." DH flipped out, absolutely livid about the entire thing. I told him he should have put a stop to the behavior from day one, that him even talking to J about their sex life has been instigating all of this. He told me he would talk to J about it, that it is inappropriate, etc. Since then, J's mom killed herself, so DH hasn't felt like its been a good time to talk to J about the situation and what not.
But anyway, with all of this, I can't decide if they are just weird, or if they are trying to get my husband in bed! DH is convinced they are wanting both of us to come swing with them, but I am real uncomfortable with them.
I think DH is still going to talk to J when things with his mom calm down, tell J that K is NOT allowed at the store any more, and also that he is not comfortable discussing anything besides business from now on, but waht do you think the intentions were from these people? Just being overly nice? Interested in DH?
Asked by Anonymous at 1:46 AM on Jul. 12, 2011 in Relationships
they are trying to push their lifestyle on both of you so don't even try to be friendly they will take it the wrong way!!!!!
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