I know he loves me. I really do. But sometimes, he really pushes the limits of my love for him. I know it is hard for him to trust, after what he has been through, it's only to be expected..but he is not the only one who has dealt with a betrayal or gotten his heart broken. I have been hurt, too. But you don't see me passing that expectation on to him. I don't expect him to end up doing what others did to me. If he does, well he does, but it's not like I'm sitting around waiting for the day when it happens. But that's like exactly what he is doing. He will use any excuse to tell me that he feels like he can't trust me. The thing is, he doesn't have any reason not to trust me. After more than three years together, my actions have shown beyond any doubt that he can and should trust me - but he tells me that he feels like he can't really trust me. And he won't admit that what happened to him in the past has anything to do with why he has trust issues, when it's so completely obvious that it has everything to do with it. I came across an old friend a few months back on Facebook, after making sure it was the person I used to know, I sent him an add request. Allow me to say that I never dated this person, never had sex with this person. We were JUST friends. And I have known him for almost 8 years now. He moved away and we lost touch and that's the miracle of Facebook - eventually you will find almost anyone on there! So anyways, I added my old friend. We don't talk all that often, just hey what's going on and how have you been, that sort of thing. Well he sent me a note on my wall, saying where have you been?!?!? haven't seen you around, so I told him I would send him my email address in a private message so he can write to me that way. I never post my phone number or email where the whole world can see it. That's like asking for trouble. And mind you, I haven't given my phone number to my friend, just my email. He lives in another country so it's not like we could talk anyways. So yesterday I get a text from my boyfriend asking who that person is and why are we sending pm's to each other? I told him everything, and told him I have known him a long time ago, and we have always been just friends. He was not one of those guys I wanted more than friendship with. But he isn't satisfied with that and sends me a few more texts asking if I ever had a personal or intimate relationship with this person, even tho I had already told him NO it was nothing like that. I mean, is it that hard to believe that I can have a friend who's a guy and not want to fuck him or him me??? Geez. Anyways he made me feel like I was on trial, and then he said he feels like it is hard to trust me sometimes...and in all honesty, that shit pisses me off. After all this time, and he feels like he can't trust me, because of what his stupid ass ex did to him, well, it's just not fair to me. I didn't get mad at him tho. I just texted him back about how I feel like I have to prove to him that he can trust me, that I have to work really hard at it, when I shouldn't have to, when my actions over the past 3 years have more than shown that he can trust me. It almost feels like I am battling a ghost. Yet he says that it has nothing to do with anything about his ex. Yeah, right. If I have never given you a reason not to trust me, if I have never lied to you, then why don't you trust me. That's just foolish.
What's your take on this?
And thank you for taking the time to read through this :)
Answer by gwen20 at 2:32 AM on Jul. 12, 2011
Answer by emmyandlisa at 9:24 AM on Jul. 12, 2011
Answer by GlitteribonMom at 11:09 AM on Jul. 12, 2011
Answer by Shy_Dia at 11:19 AM on Jul. 12, 2011
Answer by MamaAlice54 at 6:56 PM on Jul. 13, 2011
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