I live with the in-laws. She is not a bad person, but she is TOO attentive to my child. She leaves for work around 8:30am and gets home after 7pm and so I try to make it so she doesn't interact with her much. She doesn't speak much English, and so always talks in Vietnamese around my baby. I would like my child to learn English first, so I can understand her. She has pushed me out of the way while I was diaper changing my daughter before, and what really pissed me off was she gave my baby her FIRST bath. I was looking forward to that as a new mom, and yes sometimes after you give birth you want extra help, but not when you are in the middle of changing a diaper. I worked an odd shift and so one night I got home and hadn't seen my DD, so I wanted to hold her and love on her. MIL came over to take my baby from me and I went off and shouted at her NO, I'VE GOT HER.
Then I went to my moms for a month. She called me and told me I must come back soon, she missed her too much. I don't feel its healthy for a child to be around in-laws that much. My baby was having problems identifying with me. I quit my job and am now a SAHM and still living in the in-laws home for a couple more months.
Should I keep trying to limit her interaction with my daughter?
Asked by Anonymous at 8:22 AM on Jul. 12, 2011 in Relationships
Have you talked to DH about any of this? It may be something as simple as a cultural difference. As far as her speaking another language around DD. It might be a good way for you to learn the language. I would be mad if someone came over and shoved me out of the way while I was changing my child. But again I would talk to DH about anything cultural you could be unaware of. Some cultures help the mother a lot more then we are used to. If it is not that then I would have him talk to her about pulling back a little. And you guys trying to find somewhere else to live.
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