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I've been married a year today.

A week ago we decided to get a divorce.

I'm trying not to get depressed. I want to cry.

I love him so much. I don't know why he could never see it.

There's no chance of us reconsiling.

He said things I can not forgive him for.

To make this a question, what should I do today?

 

 
Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 2:00 PM on Jul. 12, 2011 in Relationships

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Answers (8)
  • You should do whatever you feel like doing.

    Feel like crying.. cry.
    Feel like getting out and away.. then do so.

    Fighting or suppressing how we feel in order to try and change it rarely works.. Accepting how we feel, why we feel that way and then moving on when we can usually has better results in the long run.
    pixie_trix

    Answer by pixie_trix at 2:05 PM on Jul. 12, 2011

  • You should forgive him for whatever he said. He was probably hurting and wanted to hurt you in the same way that you were hurting him. You've been married one year!! There's no way you could have made the adjustments necessary to make a healthy marriage. My husband and I have been married going on 47 years, and we are still working at it. Love is more about commitment than it is about feelings and you can choose to forgive him anything he does.
    NannyB.

    Answer by NannyB. at 2:06 PM on Jul. 12, 2011

  • Tell him how you feel???
    noteven1nce

    Answer by noteven1nce at 2:06 PM on Jul. 12, 2011

  • hugsI'm sorry to hear that. I guess if you both aren't wanting to work it out, give yourself time to heal, its been a week, it will take time. All you can do is try to move forward with your life. lots of hugs and good luck to you!

    Sillylins

    Answer by Sillylins at 2:06 PM on Jul. 12, 2011

  • Hold up wait a minute....oh hecccccckkkk nooooo! So what you mentioned just now doesn't make smoke come out of your nose???? Keep all of the evidence of infidelity and please divorce him for your own good...please.
    noteven1nce

    Answer by noteven1nce at 2:19 PM on Jul. 12, 2011

  • I'm so sorry. Been there. It gets better.


    hugging

    1smartcookie

    Answer by 1smartcookie at 9:45 PM on Jul. 12, 2011

  • I caught him talking to another woman.
    I believe they were/are having an emotional affair.
    When I confronted him, I told him I was not comfortable with their relationship and their use of "I love you...."
    He told me he's not getting rid of her for me and that he tells her he loves her, just like he tells me.
    She and I are not the same. I am his wife, she should be no one.
    I will not accept his relationship with her.
    He made his choice.
    He told me even if I didn't want a divorce, my "reaction" to this makes him not want to be married to me.
    Anonymous

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 2:14 PM on Jul. 12, 2011

  • Of course I am angry. That doesn't stop me from being heartbroken.
    A divorce is the only solution.
    Anonymous

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 2:23 PM on Jul. 12, 2011