My son has been doing this for about a year now and I need some advice. My son is 4. Sometimes when he sees someone with darker skin, whether they be black or Mexican, he will say something about brown skin. And he will sometimes just randomly tell me about the brown skinned person he saw somewhere. He has said this to people before or loud enough about someone for them to hear and I get so embarrased and just tell him it doesn't matter what color a person's skin is. He has even said it about my husband (his father) a couple times (my husband is Mexican). So how would you feel if you heard a child say this? Whether you are darker skined or not. And what would you tell your child if they said this? I just try to tell him it doesn't matter, we are all the same no matter what color our skin is. He also has asked me a few times what color we are. And again, I just tell him it doesn't matter.
I honestly don't remember going through this as a child, but again, he is only 4, so I can't really remember that far back for myself.
Answer by Jademom07 at 10:31 PM on Jul. 12, 2011
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I agree with the other poster who said it's not so much what the child says but what the parent's response is. My kids have asked why is that person brown. My response is that's the way God made them. If they ask why I tell them that God makes all things different. They are this color and that person is that color because that's how God wanted them to be. It's really innocent and I don't feel they are being mean or judgemental, they are just curious. My kids have friends who are of varying ethnicities. My son has 2 friends named Sebastian, one is white and the other is brown. If the kids are asked which Sebastian they will respond the white one or the brown one. They are not being racial it's just a description.
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