This is really hard, but im gonna try to keep it short and cut to the chase.
I have one daughter who is almost 9 months old. She has always been a very fussy baby. She was colic when she was a baby and now she has seperation anxiety so almost everytime i leave the room she is crying. I also watch my nephews during the week, one is almost 2 years old and the other is 9 months, day older then my daughter. Both of my nephews are very difficult to have here. The one that is almost 2 bangs his head against walls when he is mad, throws himself on the ground and screams over everything. My other nephew (9 months) cries ALL the time. Even when he ACTUALLY plays, he ends up crying because he gets pissed at the toy. I feel awful, but i get so frustrated that i want to just scream, literally. The 2 year old kicks my daughter, pinches her, has sat on her head when she was about 6 months, hits w/ his hands and other objects. I am tired of my daughter getting hit by him. And it doesnt help that the parents basically allow him to act this way. They do disipline him but they are not consistant. And consistancy is so important when you are teaching a 2 year old. My 9 month old nephew, i swear if he doesnt have a bottle in his mouth he is crying! I have tried to tell the parents that he just cries all day but they got pissed because they are completely convinced that he is the easiest baby. I know he is not the hardest, but he is VERY needy. And im so frustrated because i will grint my teeth to keep from blowing up!!! I get so pissed off and i feel bad but i cant help it and i feel like something is wrong with me. So basically what i am asking is, am i a horrible person to get this angry with kids? Is it the age difference? the 2 year olds ridiculous fits and beatin on the little ones? or is it me?
Now, they are expecting another child and are talking about me watching all 3 of their kids now and when i told them that my husband and i were trying for another baby all they could say was how hard it was going to be to watch all the kids by myself with the different ages. Instead of a "Im happy for you" its them tellin me its a bad idea basically. And i dont want to plan my life around THEIR kids. Im startin to think i cant do this anymore. But i know they will be very pissed when i tell them cuz they save a LOT of money keepin them out of a daycare but it shouldnt be MY responsibility that they cant afford about to be 3 of their kids.
What do you think? Am i wrong? Just tell me your thoughts. Maybe it will help me, thank you!.
Asked by Anonymous at 1:35 PM on Jul. 13, 2011 in General Parenting
I would stop watching their kids. Sorry but the one is being violent to your baby. That would be it for me.
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