For me, I have to step back and figure out what it is I *can* control and what it is I can't. There is no sense obsessing over what I can't. It is not productive and in fact, can be quite counter productive. Instead I focus in on what i *can* control. I figure out what it is *I* can impact and how I can do so without making myself crazy in the process. Having some control over a situation can go a long way in lowering stress - realizing that I can't control the rest goes a long way towards growing peace.
Last year DH found out his company was going to be acquired and lay-offs were likely. We could not control the merger. We could not control the lay-offs. We could, however, comb want ads, reach out to our contacts and work on a job search. He found a new job before the merger was complete. His job *was* eliminated at the old place but we had been proactive in what we *could* control in a way that paid off.
at 3:42 PM on Jul. 13, 2011