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How do you punish a boy that just don't care? adult content

banging head into wall    my 14 yr old son just flat out does not give a crap about ANYTHING!!!! this is no joke...nothing at all. even taking in consideration of his diagnosis's, it is very overwhelming. i have no way of getting thru to him on anything. he lies, steals, has 2 felony counts, and it's all funny to him cuz he uses his disabilities as an excuse on everything. there is not a day that goes by that i can just correct him simple and nicely to him and he will scream out that i am a fucking bitch and hates me and that i purposely get on to him for everything. i was raised in an abusive home, and i am proud of myself for not raising mine the way i was.....but i can't even look at him without seeing red anymore! he knows it too and thinks it's a game. he wins cuz "i can't touch him" someone please help me out with some advice

 
MommaFossil

Asked by MommaFossil at 8:39 PM on Jul. 13, 2011 in General Parenting

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  • Why does society find it okay for children to act out with behavior problems by committing crimes and getting felony's for attention. He wants attention then spank him, ground him and take away things in his room tv, video games etc... all privileges until he can behave and show his mother some respect. When he starts behaving properly and following the rules of the house then take him somewhere fun and allow him to hang out with friends and earn some privileges back.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:34 PM on Jul. 13, 2011

  • AT 14, it is usually about being social. Take it all away. He is not allowed any friend time until he earns it back by being respectful, and doing what he needs to be doing.

    He is going to be really hard to be around, but he will do what he needs to do to get back with his friends.
    ImaginationMama

    Answer by ImaginationMama at 8:47 PM on Jul. 13, 2011

  • Find something he DOES care about, and take it away.
    PartyGalAnne

    Answer by PartyGalAnne at 8:59 PM on Jul. 13, 2011

  • Call Dr. Phil! Or you could take all his stuff away from him, even his friends. OOH try homeschooling also.
    danichaos

    Answer by danichaos at 9:12 PM on Jul. 13, 2011

  • Take everything out of his bedroom and make him earn it back. After he is sleeping on the floor for a few days he will get the message.
    matthewscandi

    Answer by matthewscandi at 9:01 PM on Jul. 13, 2011

  • While I completely agrre wtih both of them, you need a vaca momma!
    kgrine

    Answer by kgrine at 9:01 PM on Jul. 13, 2011

  • U know what he probably does care about, is getting a rise out of u! So, try taking a different approach (gonna be hard) but act very generic towards him as if u too could care less! What's the worst that could happen? Heck u said you've tried everything, plus he has already gotten in trouble. Maybe if he sees that his behavior is making u feel and act different towards him, he'll think twice!
    PANZONSMOM

    Answer by PANZONSMOM at 9:05 PM on Jul. 13, 2011

  • at 14 he's hormonal, and retesting the waters.. with two felonies I see it as a cry for attention.. see what attention he's missing and try to fill the void that's obviously made it's way into his life.
    xxhazeldovexx

    Answer by xxhazeldovexx at 9:17 PM on Jul. 13, 2011