I've been married for 13 years and am at that point as well, with no man involved though. For me the addition of our sons ages 2&4 has really been a challenge. We have a total of 4 kids!!! My husband is in sales, so that adds to the situation. I do think, however, that situations should be addressed given all the variables. I also strongly believe that as Americans we tend to devalue marriage and call it quits way too quickly. Marriage in subject to being reinventing and a renaissance of our marriages is all a part of that evolution. Don't throw in the towel. That "wonderful,other man" is usually only so wonderful beacuse you are feeling so negative about your marriage. Communicate, communicate... go back to those things you used to do. Don't know the author, but a great book you can get from an Ebay or Amazon is called Light His Fire. It's a start. Marriages are most often not 50/50. Best Wishes. Believe in your marriage, believe in you!!!!
at 6:07 PM on Jun. 19, 2008