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My friend is borrowing our car for a few mo's and im worried about it back, even though we did not sell it to him and i still have the title in hand. How do i go about getting it back from him on the day we need it?

I wrote a letter giving permission to drive the car, I'm in MN, the other person is in VA.. do i call the police if he doesnt willingly give the car back to us? thanks!

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Asked by Anonymous at 8:29 PM on Dec. 18, 2008 in Just for Fun

Answers (12)
  • if you are worried about not getting your car back from a so called "friend" then why in the heck would you give your friend the car in the first place?!

    Answer by m.robertson811 at 8:36 PM on Dec. 18, 2008

  • well, i initially didn't want to, but.. my hubby said it was ok and he is not worried, but, i am, so, what would you do.. yes i know it was a mistake to let him borrow the car, i, just looking for advice.

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:39 PM on Dec. 18, 2008

  • mrobertson why are you so negative in just about EVERY answer? people come on here for advice and you're just making them feel worse!

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:42 PM on Dec. 18, 2008

  • Call the person, tell him/her you want the car back. If he/she won't give it back. Go get it. You do have an extra set of keys. If that doesn't work call the police.

    Answer by louise2 at 8:43 PM on Dec. 18, 2008

  • I dont have a good answer for this one as ive never been in that situation.....
    however if it were me i would....
    A) ask for the car back when you need it...
    B) give him a reasonable amount of time to return it
    C)if he doesnt return it, lay out his options and tell him what your plan of action is if he doesnt return it by X time. (like im going to file a stolen car report w/ the police if its not returned by noon 1/5/09)
    D) Dont make threats actually stick to what you say and mean it.! and if he desnt return it file a report w/ the police....
    good luck!!

    Answer by momtwo3_thatsme at 8:46 PM on Dec. 18, 2008

  • Oh i wanted to are very generous to "share" your car!
    when my husband first graduated and started his new job we could only afford one car and we shared it, i was home all day with our kids and the ones i babysat for w/ no car becasue hubby woorked an hour away so it didnt make sense for me to drive him then turn around and come back only to that again later....kwim? anyways a new friend of ours (one we had only know a couple months) his mom won a small amount off the lottery and bought him a brand spankin new truck! 2 weeks before he had to leave the country for work for 3 months....he loaned us the truck and it helped us ALOT befre he returned we were able to buy another vehicle and we parked is truck back the garage. but i will never forget his generosity! he didnt have to that but we sure appreciete that he did......!

    Answer by momtwo3_thatsme at 8:50 PM on Dec. 18, 2008

  • Keep in close, friendly contact during the entire length of time this person has your car.

    During those conversations, remind the person 1) you will need the car back, 2) WHEN you will need the car back and 3) that he needs to be working on getting his own transportation because you will, indeed, need the car back.

    Thirty days before you will need the car back, send a note. Then every few days, check in and make sure that everything is on schedule. If there is a problem, assume the best and be flexible. If the car is not returned within three days of the set date, call the police. Once the car is returned, breathe a sigh of relief and resolve to stick to your GUT next time.

    Answer by Wimsey at 9:13 PM on Dec. 18, 2008

  • were you specific with the directions of borrowing & returning, with dates & signitures? If not, im not sure you can do much of anything, if your agreement was of a general nature short of pressing theift charges on him at the prosecuting attorneys office. but even at that it will be hard to convience them that the borrowing turned into theift, if you didnt address the date of return issue.

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:32 PM on Dec. 18, 2008

  • next time only lend out what you can afford to give away

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:33 PM on Dec. 18, 2008

  • I would put an agreement in writing between the two of you, when he will take the car, and when he is required to bring it back. Both of you sign it and have it notarized. Make sure it specifically says that you are not selling the car to him. If you have any issues getting it back in the specified amount of time, take your letter to the police department and go from there

    Answer by heatherann0221 at 12:44 AM on Dec. 19, 2008

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