When my husband and his ex divorced and she got a vehicle awarded that she was supposed to take possession of and make the payments and make it hers with him having no financial obligations, rights to,etc. Well, here is it 4 years down the road and my husband and I go to get another vehicle only to find that the vehicle is still in my husbands name and she has never made the payments on time and she would go months without paying it while she was on vacations with her various live in boyfriends. My husband recently got deployed and up till he left I have been with his three children 4, 5, and 8 every Tuesday - Sunday and sometimes longer which brought the kids and I really close and we had a great relationship going. Upon my husbands deployment he made me his POA and told me to get the vehicle situation taken care of so we could work on his credit so we could buy a house , another car and start our lives out financially better off when he comes home. We had started getting phone calls when we got a new phone from the finance company who has the loan for the van so I emailed her a total of 3 times which I have printed out on both ends of the conversation and I asked her very politely when she was going to be getting the vehicle out of my husbands name so that we can work on improving his credit, she instantly flew back saying that I was not to contact her and that I was to stay away from her kids, three days later I get slapped with a protection order. Prior to this, I had spoken to an attorney here in town about our case and us taking her to court over the vehicle and my visitation which is granted by my husband while he is gone, needless to say the attorney called her and told her everything and then on top of it all when I showed up to court there he sat to represent her and I had worked so much I didn't have time to find an attorney but had I not worked 6 12 hour shifts lacking sleep from the night before court I would have realized how dirty this all seemed but none the less she was granted the order claiming that she didn't know me and feared I would hurt or take off with my step children..This is where it gets to showing her reasons.. She has had 4 different men living in her house amongst the children that she meets at bars.. the first week of November there was one guy living there and by Thanksgiving there was a new guy and he has been on the list to pick the kids up from school. he takes them places by himself, they even left the kids at his parents house three hours away and yet she claims she felt the kids would be in danger because she doesn't know me??? Hmmmm. Another thing is that she had always told the kids that they could have two moms and two dads and they know what the term step-mom/dad means, and that was all fine until the kids started calling me mom then she flipped a switch and started making things difficult.hence the irrational way she is using the kids as pawns in her games not only with me but my husband as well. When he calls to talk to the kids, her boyfriend answers and when she answers she is in the background while he talking with the kids telling them to tell their daddy what "Mr.Moon" (her live in) did with them, tell daddy what Mr.Moon got for you , and asked my husband if it is hot where he is and when he answered yes, she replied with telling him to enjoy his heat that she was taking off work early and her and her live in were going to go spend the day with her kids.. The kids always ask why I don't come see them or call them and it tears my husband up that she did this over my asking her to take responsibility of something she was supposed to have done years ago..This girl is an accountant and yet can't pay her bills but goes on vacations every time she switches men? Not only that she dropped the van off to get repossessed not telling us she was doing that and I had to go get it and now we have a 500 dollar van note sitting in our driveway and all we can do is wait for the court order to go through giving her 30 days to pay the full amount owed on it.Sorry this is all out of order, I have had this bottled up and I have no idea what I need to do, I am supposed to be starting law school but I am afraid that this protection order she got will mess up my background check making me fail a background check..for being a wife and a good step mom..to a womans kids who obviously has mental issues..What can I do? I live in Kansas and my husband and I are calling attorneys and trying to get something done as we speak but is or has any other step mom been through this?Answer Question
Answer by Anonymous at 3:07 AM on Jul. 20, 2011
Answer by laird6372 at 3:56 AM on Jul. 20, 2011
Answer by HollyBoBolly at 4:15 AM on Jul. 20, 2011
Answer by Ms.Gwen at 9:08 AM on Jul. 20, 2011
He can not grant you his visitation with just a letter. You may be able to use the letter to get the court to grant you some visitation though. As for the order it should be tossed because of the unethical behavior of the attorney. You need to gather proof you where talking to him and thought he was your attorney. Than sue him. He will get disbarred and probably have to pay you more than enough to cover any further actions you have to take against the bio mom for visitations and the cost to pay off the van. Taking her to court to pay for the van is not going to do anything she has proven she is not going to pay for it even if it is court ordered. If it was court ordered that she pays for it you should not have to take her back to court. You should be taking that court order to the bank that holds the loan (or fax them a copy). They are the ones breaking the law by putting it on your husbands credit if the court Cont
Answer by Alanaplus3 at 9:19 AM on Jul. 20, 2011
has said that he is not the one financially responsible. Get the first court order to the bank holding the loan on the van. Than get an attorney that will help sue the first one and see if he can help you get a little bit of visitation. It may not be the amount of visitation you want but it could be something.
Answer by Alanaplus3 at 9:21 AM on Jul. 20, 2011
Answer by matthewscandi at 9:21 AM on Jul. 20, 2011
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