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I have 3 step kids and 1 of my own, I concider all of them my kids.hey live with us all year.

I have 3 step kids and 1 of my own, I concider all of them my kids since they live with us all year. When I introduce them I do so as my sons and daughter. Is that wrong? Their father and I are the primary caregivers.

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Asked by Anonymous at 9:29 PM on Jul. 13, 2008 in About CafeMom

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  • No, it's not wrong. I've had a SD and SS for 15 months now. As much as I would like to leave the "step" part out of our family my SD has made it clear that I am not her mother (who died 4 yrs. ago) Now, one of my sons refers to my husband as his Dad/parent when talking with friends. (My late husband died 4 years ago also) Go figure!

    Answer by JuneL at 9:46 PM on Jul. 13, 2008

  • No. it offends me when people DO NOT do this because I think it is disrespectful to the kids.

    Answer by TXdanielly at 10:19 PM on Jul. 13, 2008

  • Nope that is noble, YOU GO GIRL. there should be more Mommies like you. take care of all of YOUR babies.

    Answer by AuntieVetta at 10:33 PM on Jul. 13, 2008

  • If you and the kids are happy and comfortable with it use the title that vworks best for you all and God bless.

    Answer by wondermommy5 at 10:34 PM on Jul. 13, 2008

  • my husband calls my kids his "kids" or son or daughter. the friends call my husband "your dad" when they talk to my son b/c he doesn't correct them. My daughter calls him her stepdad and her friends call him her step dad. I just let whoever say whatever. my ex never comes around so it's not like my hubby is horning in on my kids and their dad.

    Answer by Momchipomkids at 10:58 PM on Jul. 13, 2008

  • Your doing the right thing. They should be introduced as your kids, no explanation is needed...unless your 25 and your step-son is 22..LOL! You might get a silly look.

    Answer by s.c.a.r.l.e.t. at 11:22 PM on Jul. 13, 2008

  • Not at all.. I'm sure it makes them very happy.

    Answer by pupmom at 12:02 AM on Jul. 14, 2008

  • Find out what the kids want. As long as everyone is happy with it, I say it's fine :)

    Answer by TessaBianca at 1:14 AM on Jul. 14, 2008

  • My mom dies when I wa 15 years old. My Aunt ( who raised us after that) refers to my sister and I as her daughters. She has 1 daughter of her own and she calls all of us her"girls". I know it was hard for me to call my stepfather "Dad". I would say, you can refer to them as your kids if that's how you feel. It's hard to get over the passing of your mother at a young age. One day they will look back and understand. Just make sure they know you love them just them same no matter what you refer to each other as. I don't call my aunt mom, but in my mind she is.

    Answer by Aunttiff at 2:53 PM on Jul. 14, 2008

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