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How Do You Love More Than One Child?!?!?

So the question of having baby #2 has come up with my husband and I; now we haven't decided yet, but I'm curious and scared and wonder if I'm alone, How do you love more than one child?!?! I love my daughter so much, I don't know if it is possible to love another child as much as her!!! I'm so confused, so plesae tell me I'm not the only one who has thought this!?!?!?

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HMHUTSON

Asked by HMHUTSON at 6:30 PM on Dec. 19, 2008 in General Parenting

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Answers (22)
  • your heart seems to grow even if you think it cant
    mama2twins07

    Answer by mama2twins07 at 6:32 PM on Dec. 19, 2008

  • You can't really explain it YOU JUST DO!!!
    watersgirls

    Answer by watersgirls at 6:34 PM on Dec. 19, 2008

  • You will be amazed. You will find that they are 2 totally different people and you will be able to love them independently. Parenting is an amazing thing.
    EireLass

    Answer by EireLass at 6:34 PM on Dec. 19, 2008

  • you just will... its a mommys nature to love.... we have more love to give then even we know!!
    boogirlsmommy

    Answer by boogirlsmommy at 6:37 PM on Dec. 19, 2008

  • Oh you are not the only one with this "problem"... and its actually the reason why i dont want any more children. I know it seems weird. But i love my daughter so much i would be afraid of not being able to love the new baby as much as my first born. I know a mother loves every of their children the same. Because my mom loves me as much as she loves my younger brother. But still this feeling i have wont go away. probably not until i have baby #2. which wont be in the next 10years. haha
    m.robertson811

    Answer by m.robertson811 at 6:45 PM on Dec. 19, 2008

  • Girl, you cannot possibly imagine it right now, because you only have one. A mother's love does not stop at one, nor is it spread thin... It just grows to cover more children. Don't worry, I couldn't imagine it until I had more than one either. ;)
    pupmom

    Answer by pupmom at 6:46 PM on Dec. 19, 2008

  • I think all parents wonder this when they have only one. The love isn't divided when more children arrive - it is multiplied! My two kids are so different, and at times one is easier to deal with, while other times it is reversed. But I never love one more than the other. I adore them both beyond words. When the time is right to expand your family, you will see!
    yarnjunkie

    Answer by yarnjunkie at 6:48 PM on Dec. 19, 2008

  • Love is infinite; you'll have more than enough love for all your children, whether it's 2 or 10!!!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:52 PM on Dec. 19, 2008

  • You are not alone! I had the same thoughts only a couple of months before I had my second son. I actually started crying to my husband about it one time. LOL I just could imagine how I would do it. But like others have said, once you hold the new baby in your arms it's a whole other story! There is no end to the love that you can have for others. In fact the love I have for my husband has only grown with every year that goes by. And now we have 3 kids together and I have 2 step kids. It's wonderful!
    01buckler15

    Answer by 01buckler15 at 7:50 PM on Dec. 19, 2008

  • I've asked my mom and mil the same question- and they say you just do!
    sfwilson

    Answer by sfwilson at 8:12 PM on Dec. 19, 2008

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