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are they too young to like girls?my 8 yr old and 10 yr old told me they like a girl and they like them back.they even asked me if they could but them a christmas present.i dont know if i should let them.i dont know how the girls parents would feel about this.should i encourage this and let them buy something?

 
ALLSPORTMOM

Asked by ALLSPORTMOM at 11:38 AM on Dec. 21, 2008 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • At this age it's cute. They like them...they don't really understand the meaning of what they are saying. When they say this they are just mimicing situations they have seen around them. They know they are suppose to like girls and when you like somebody you get them a gift. All children go through the first gf or bf! Enjoy it, it's cute.
    sidzwif

    Answer by sidzwif at 3:12 PM on Dec. 23, 2008

  • I remember middle school being the first time my friends and I had "boyfriends". My parents didn't approve, so if my crush bought me something, I hid it from them. I know not all parents are like mine, but it wouldn't hurt to get thier permission first - just don't make it a big deal.........how embarrasing would that be? Let your boys know that it's ok to like girls and teach them how sensitive some of them can be. Hormones are cuckoo around that age.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:46 AM on Dec. 21, 2008

  • I had my first 'boyfriend' when I was about 5. Actually, my BFF & I both had a crush on him --- he lived across the street. We'd team up against him, chase him down in the yard, and kiss him LOL

    I found him on Myspace recently --- hadn't seen him since about 1st grade. I messaged him and told him "I think I know you...".. and he replied with "OMG! My first ever girlfriend!!!" haha
    Laura1229

    Answer by Laura1229 at 11:52 AM on Dec. 21, 2008

  • I WOULS SUGGEST A CARD INSTEAD OF A GIFT IF THEY REALLY WANT TO DO SOMETHING. MINE STARTED 7TH GRADE,THIS YEAR. WE JUST WENT THRU THIS. SO I THINK ITS NORMAL .THAT WAY NO PARENTS ARE OFFENDED CAUSE ITS A CARD.... JUST AN IDEA. LMK HOW IT WORKS OUT!
    RUSTI44

    Answer by RUSTI44 at 2:14 PM on Dec. 21, 2008

  • my ten year old had a "girlfriend" last year (in fourth grade), and its been on-again off-again between them this year
    let your boys get their "gf" a present, but check with the parents first
    i think its cute and harmless, right now my ten yo says he doesn't want a gf "cause i'm still a kid and i don't need a gf untill i'm in college and not a kid anymore"
    boys are strange, let them be strange
    bi-polarmommy

    Answer by bi-polarmommy at 4:37 PM on Dec. 21, 2008

  • I'm a mom of an 8yo girl,I wouldn't think anything about it if the gift was appropriate,I would think it's sweet :)

    tntornado45

    Answer by tntornado45 at 7:35 AM on Dec. 22, 2008

  • I think it should be something they purchase with there "own" money. Allowance, birthday money, whatever it is they may get. If they want to do this it should come from them. It should also not be jewelry or clothing or anything too mature for thier age. Something small and age apropriate.
    AprilD32

    Answer by AprilD32 at 12:28 PM on Dec. 22, 2008

  • I have a 9 yr. old (DD) and 10 yr. old (DS). My son is the only one with a "girlfriend". My daughter still thinks boys are "hideous" (her words lol) although some are cute. And yes, I would let my son get a small gift for her. Maybe a box of candy or a nice card with his school picture in it would be cute.

    LovingParent08

    Answer by LovingParent08 at 3:38 PM on Dec. 22, 2008

  • My 8 yr old has a crush on a girl in his class. I let him get a small stuffed animal to give her and I had him sign the card your friend. He gave it to her on the last day of school before winter break and he said maybe she will understand that he wants to be really good friends with her. It was cute and he was so brave. I didn't want to shoot down his feelings and explained that it's better to start out as friends than being boyfriend and girlfriend.
    frenzied

    Answer by frenzied at 8:50 PM on Dec. 22, 2008

  • My daughters (11 and 9) have been getting gifts from their "boyfriends" since age 6! One of my sons just started getting gifts from his "girlfriends" not even on holidays even they go but him stuffed animals and stuff all the time. i can not imagine kindness being offensive I mean sure if they bought make-up or underwear, THAT would be offensive but my kids have only gotten action figures and stuffed animals.
    natles

    Answer by natles at 9:48 PM on Dec. 22, 2008

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