My 12 yr old daughter, an only child to a single mother, is unable to accept it when I say 'NO'. She asks me why/why not; argues; throws fits; begs & whines, or makes me feel guilty by going on about how important it is to her.
I have always showered her with attention. love. always put her needs first, given her about everything she's wanted, but she always showed respect/appreciation for me until recently. It was easy to "spoil" her when she was younger since she never was a brat towards me, but not anymore. I always take her & her cousins/friends places or have them over & have included her in everything.
I noticed recently that I have probbably overexplained things & treated her more of an equal since its just the two of us, so I have been trying to find more balance & get her to accept limits.
I was abused as a child so find it very hard to not feel guilt when she is unhappy, so usually give in or try to compromise, even if I resent doing so. i find I am always trying "to make it up to her" as if I have done something wrong.
I need advice to help her learn to live with my decisions.
Answer by gdiamante at 2:50 AM on Aug. 3, 2011
Answer by blessedwboysx3 at 10:22 AM on Aug. 3, 2011
Answer by cat4458 at 8:54 PM on Aug. 5, 2011
Answer by mommmy1978 at 11:12 PM on Aug. 5, 2011